My answer to your problem

Someone make this a sticky, I'd just like to share my philosophy.


Is your problem only there because you are noticing it? Ask your best friend "Friend, do you think that i might only have this problem because I keep noticing it?"

If its not physical, or chemical then its mental. In my mind, that means that you can change quite easily - if you really want to.

CBT, and Hypnotherapy are a way to help remind you that you have the power to change this problem.

In every situation, I consider that "If someone out there can do this, then so can I".

Let me give you some examples of my life:
Headaches:
I just posted a response about headaches. I rarely get any headaches that last any amount of time. Usually it's a sign of dehydration, but I know people get them for no apparent reason too. If I feel one, I simply tell myself that it's all in my head, and that means its something I can control.

There is no process, I just trust and believe that a part of my brain hears me when I say "Get rid of this now". And it goes away.


Girls:
Far too complicated to think about too much. I trust that If I be completely honest with them, and just be completely myself, then we will bond because we're compatible, if not, then that's fine - they just aren't my kind of person.
If you think you have to play some game to get a girl to like you, then you're not being honest with yourself. Just be strong about who you are, but don't be a dick, chillax and don't give a sh** what people think - They aren't going to say anything to you anyway. And if they do, its either constructive criticism or they are just jealous of how awesome you are.


There are some problems that you can't fix without help - but this only happens when you have conflicting ideas.

example(if i decided to say this was a real problem - which it's not):
I want to goto the gym 3 times a week. Last week I went nonce. The week before I went once.
The reason that I don't go ... is that I don't really think it will help me get more girls or make me any better at sex. I makes me hot and sweaty, which makes me look like crap for the rest of the day.
Reasons I do go.... I'm gonna get diabeties at some point and i'd like to have a healthy heart for as long as possible. Also after the workout I feel awesome (a little high).



Pessimism on yourself will only make you feel worse, and every time you say "oh i noticed this about myself that makes me sad" you are reinforcing it. Instead you just say "I am awesome and I can do this". If it helps, pretend your James Bond, that's what i used to do.


Oh and this isn't stuff I learned from any books anywhere. I've just noticed that there are so many people self-help books and it got me thinking - how come I have never wanted/needed to read it?

Its because I'm very strong minded and don't ever ever ever rely on anyone to help me with my mental issues.



things I'm bad at just for reference:
languages, memory, being organized, being lazy in general.

The problems for these are as follows:
languages - not enough oppourtunity to practice/takes far too long to learn if you're not in the country that speaks it. So deep down, I think its a waste of time and I should just go and live there instead.

Memory - I black out so much more that i used to when I drink. I noticed that I forget things that aren't important to me, and I guess this means that I don't find a lot of things that emotionally stimulating.

Being unorganized/too lazy - effort. I'm lazy with the things that i don't think are that important to me. I'm waiting for someone to show me an organized person and an unorganized one, and then measure the difference between the two people. I need proof and understanding before I start doing something.

Thanks for reading folkes!