need some anger management...

I dont know, with me, I get mad at my gf a lot....just things she does, and her tone of voice when we fight, it makes me really go crazy. for example, this morning, I thought we were ok, but all of a sudden, my gf was kind of cold to me, and i say what's wrong, and she was like "nothing nothing." the I kept asking and asking, and she told me, and it ended up being about my parents dog. Inside me, I was feeling that she was attacking and complaining AT me, rather then talking to me about it.....her tone of voice was really negative, and I felt that she was yelling at me, when I didn't know what was going on.

all of a sudden, I guess the build up of trying to figure her out, and all the stress exploded, and I started kicking the door and screaming really loud. In our fights, I have never hurt her physically, it's just I have so much trouble talking with her. when she says about something, eerytime I try to explain to her or something, it never makes her feel better and she always has something else to counter my reason. I'm just not good at arguing and at times, I have hit my head on the carpet and stuff like that.

I'm just scared that I'm going to seriouly hurt myself.

It's so hard for me to sit calmly and listen to her rants, when they all sound so negative and I feel attacked. It really kills my temper. and I dont know what to do.

I mean, maybe I really need to see a psychologist or something.......but I dont know where to start. do I just go to a phonebook and look up a keyword? anybody have any suggestions on how to find a professional? or have tips for me to control my anger?

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and for those of you who want to know our reason that we fought: this morning, my gf asked me if she can feed out dog table food. and I said no, and she thought that I said "no" in a strong way, and gave me a super cold shoulder....and as this progressed, she then all of a sudden says that she doesn't feel comfortable staying w/ my parents house, because all of my family love the dog, and she feels uncomfortable about it.....like we care about the dog more then her.