A different view of the same problem..

**Posts:** 21 · by **boggler** » Sun Jun 02, 2013 6:40 pm

I started the "hiding my emotions" thread.. But I want to start a new thread because I am looking at this differently now and it makes more sense (somewhat). It's not really that my emotions are hidden but they don't come out verbally. So people ask me what I'm feeling inside and the reason I don't have answer isn't because I'm not feeling it, it's because it doesn't fit into words and that kind of explains why everything is "blank" and I can't think when I'm crying. But emotions can fit into my artwork and I can express non-verbally in other ways too.
Now I searched "inability to verbally express emotions" on google and I got Alexithymia. But alexithymia also means that you can't see emotions in other people and you don't express much emotion at all (both non-verbally and verbally) which doesn't sound like me.

So it's a different kind of problem and I think I understand it better now so I think maybe I am closer to finding a solution but I don't know where to go from here.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Mon Jun 03, 2013 5:06 pm

What you feel inside is the chemicals created by your mind through the thoughts that you choose and the chemicals that you eat and drink.

Unhappy thoughts of anger, jealousy, fear, resentment, sorrow, guilt, tension and blame create the chemical cortisol and have a dampening effect on the immune system

Happy thoughts such as joy, love, acceptance, respect, excitement, passion, enthusiasm, forgiveness create the chemical serotonin and have an uplifting effect on the immune system.

Junk food, alcohol, caffeine and other drugs send other chemical messages.

The purpose of life is to enjoy happiness. What keeps you happy in any individual moment will be uniquely individual to you. Many people make the mistake of planning to be happy when the meet the requirements set out for them by other people, usually their parents.

This doesn't work because firstly happiness is experienced in the moment, so learning to be happy in the moment is important.

Secondly, parents may love their children very much but cannot know what will keep their children happy moment by moment, that can only come from within.

As long as it does no harm to yourself, or anyone else, being guided by your inner wisdom in any moment of doubt by the question "What can I do to keep me happy right now?" will take you on exactly the right path of living a happy life.

I hope this helps. Peace, love and harmony.

**Posts:** 21 · by **boggler** » Mon Jun 03, 2013 10:30 pm

JuliusFawcett wrote:What you feel inside is the chemicals created by your mind through the thoughts that you choose and the chemicals that you eat and drink.

Unhappy thoughts of anger, jealousy, fear, resentment, sorrow, guilt, tension and blame create the chemical cortisol and have a dampening effect on the immune system

Happy thoughts such as joy, love, acceptance, respect, excitement, passion, enthusiasm, forgiveness create the chemical serotonin and have an uplifting effect on the immune system.

Junk food, alcohol, caffeine and other drugs send other chemical messages.

The purpose of life is to enjoy happiness. What keeps you happy in any individual moment will be uniquely individual to you. Many people make the mistake of planning to be happy when the meet the requirements set out for them by other people, usually their parents.

This doesn't work because firstly happiness is experienced in the moment, so learning to be happy in the moment is important.

Secondly, parents may love their children very much but cannot know what will keep their children happy moment by moment, that can only come from within.

As long as it does no harm to yourself, or anyone else, being guided by your inner wisdom in any moment of doubt by the question "What can I do to keep me happy right now?" will take you on exactly the right path of living a happy life.

I hope this helps. Peace, love and harmony.

Look I know what you're saying and I understand, and yes, I do know what makes me happy and I am happy. But I am failing 2 classes because I can't write things, not because I am not happy. I don't want to fail 2 classes. My problem is not to do with what emotions I feel but with how I am able to express them. I like the way I express my emotions but other people don't because they want me to express things with words.

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Someone on another website said this could be HFA (high functioning autism). I am wondering what you guys think - is it possible?

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Tue Jun 04, 2013 5:07 am

Then stop trying to please people by being something that you are not. Instead joyfully express yourself the best way that you know how. Life is too precious. Your mental health is more important than those 2 classes. Accept that we are all unique and wonderful in our own right.

Salvador Dali probably wouldn't have been able to pass an English class...

**Posts:** 21 · by **boggler** » Tue Jun 04, 2013 5:25 am

Yes, I know, Julius. But even though I am passing now (just barely and with a lot of pleading and rearranging with my teachers) in high school they might make me repeat a grade if I do not pass my classes, especially since the teachers are much less forgiving. And I can't do that. I have a future, I want to be a scientist and I can't do that if I can't get through high school, even though I really don't need to know how to express emotional things in words to be a scientist. The world is incredibly stupid and I am crying while I type this.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Tue Jun 04, 2013 5:43 am

Einstein flunked high school

**Posts:** 21 · by **boggler** » Tue Jun 04, 2013 5:59 am

No, as a matter of fact he didn't.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Tue Jun 04, 2013 6:08 am

Wikipedia

His father intended for him to pursue electrical engineering, but Einstein clashed with authorities and resented the school's regimen and teaching method. He later wrote that the spirit of learning and creative thought were lost in strict rote learning.

In 1895, at the age of sixteen, Einstein sat the entrance examinations for the Swiss Federal Polytechnic in Zurich (later the Eidgenössische Polytechnische Schule). He failed to reach the required standard in several subjects, but obtained exceptional grades in physics and mathematics.

**Posts:** 21 · by **boggler** » Tue Jun 04, 2013 6:12 am

Tell that to my English teacher. And the tell it to the school district. See what they think.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Tue Jun 04, 2013 6:18 am

If you love science, do science, your education system could be more flexible, yes, but don't waste your time and energy trying to fix the education system if you love science. Just keep enjoying science and doorways will open up to you in the science world. They did for Einstein.

**Posts:** 21 · by **boggler** » Tue Jun 04, 2013 6:40 am

You can't assume that and neither can I. As my geometry teacher says, Hope Is Not a Plan.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Tue Jun 04, 2013 4:23 pm

There are only two really important things in your life.

Your mental health

Your physical health

Everything else is very small by comparison. Worrying about your english exam is not going to improve your english grade or your mental health or your physical health.

Recognise that trying your best in this situation is going into the exam relaxed and confident.

I have written a hypnosis that can help you with preparing yourself well for your exam

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mdTaJgDvsYI

Good luck

**Posts:** 21 · by **boggler** » Tue Jun 04, 2013 11:13 pm

I just had that exam today and it was just a writing prompt that said I have to write about what I think about how love is portrayed in Shakespeare, The Giver, and Flowers for Algernon. And I wrote absolutely nothing, instead I drew a picture of a poster of George Harrison recreated as a collection of triangles (my English teacher is a Beatles fan).

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Wed Jun 05, 2013 4:28 am

Just a questions, feel free to ridicule me if this seems silly, would it be possible to reframe the question to make it answerable?

For example

Replacing "I think", so that the question reads like this

Write about what my English teacher would say about how love is portrayed in Shakespeare.

Just asking...

Stay strong, your mental health is more important than any exam. Peace, love and harmony.

**Posts:** 21 · by **boggler** » Wed Jun 05, 2013 6:02 am

No. He specifically says it must be your opinion. Anyway, even if I was writing about his opinion, it would still be my writing and still have my emotions attached to it so I wouldn't be able to write.

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