- 2015: I was falsely accused at workplace A, I never got to here what I was accused of but there was a lot of hate directed at me. One of the things I was called was a narcissist. I know I did nothing wrong, other than try to defend myself against a bulling culture at this company. I tried to fight it by just being professional, hoping that the truth would come out but it never did. After around 9 months of this I left.
2016: This experience destroyed me and left me feeling depressed and anxious, I tried going to councillors but it didn't real work for me. I had issues with but nothing serious, but this left me felling destroyed. Eventually, after a few months I managed to pull myself together enough to get a new job.
2018: I had been working for workplace B for about 1 1/2 years, initially i was very fearful and trembling around other people and just kept to myself. I wasn't able to perform very well and felt I should hand in my resignation; it was rejected and I carried on. Through out this time I couldn't forget what happened at workplace A, having periods of switching between anger, depression and anxiety. Then I noticed this guy looking over at me telling people how much he hated me and I was a narcissist etc' and playing game trying to make me angry and expose the narcissist. (I also believed that people from workplace A were talking to my neighbours to spread hate of me.) I raised a grievance with HR and they found nothing; eventually they suspended me and called mental health services on me.
2019: I eventually found a very good therapist who diagnosed me with avoidant personality disorder and social anxiety; I spend the next 8 months suspended going to therapy and I got back to work. Thanks to the support of workplace B I managed to get back to better than normal and could enjoy things again.
2020: Things got better I started to perform back at my previous level before workplace A nearly killed me. Now however there is another hate campaign being unleashed on me. I'd been talking to this person at lunch but when I left he seemed to go mad shouting "..he's a f***ing w****r, he shouldn't be here... I tried to just ignore it. Again people are running around calling me a narcissist and some are using blocking behaviour to stop me from getting my tasks done by not doing there job when I ask.
I understand at workplace B that there would be people unhappy to see me back; I after all raised false allocations (or did I, not so sure now). However, it has been over a year and I apologised to the guy I raised a grievance against.
I simply don't know what to do. I know I've not done anything so bad to have people constantly want to destroy my career. I want to try and out these people, but all it did last time was make things worse.
I don't know if I can really trust anyone to tell the truth because they think they are being smart, out smarting the narcissist; I've read all about such things over the years so see what they are up to.
Is there anyway to find out what I'm being accused of and clear my name? I'm fed up with it. Before I know I was having trouble believing things that weren't necessarily true; but I'm not have trouble outside of work this time regards hearing and misinterpreter things etc'. So I know this new situation is real, is it also likely that grievance was correct; when a group of people lie you can't win.
I believe that people from workplace A are behind this because they said they would make sure my career got ended. How do I get to the truth?