Boyfriend goes a little crazy?

Anger like that comes from a combination of factors, none of which are good. Basically, it is an issue of ego. He wants control and doesn't know how to achieve obtaining his goals of having others concede to his wants. When they fail to see things his way, this fuels anger. It is a tantrum.

He will get angry at you too, just give it time.

He doesn't dare display his anger in such a manner at work, because the negative impact of such a display would hurt him. He doesn't yet display it with you, because he does not yet feel he can without you leaving.

The bottom line is his father and mother never taught him better ways to cope. He would anger when younger and instead of correcting for that behavior, it was enabled in some form. This is not the first tantrum he has had with his family, but because it was never corrected it is now worse. He is now an adult which makes such an outburst much more volatile.

What you need to be concerned about is at what point he feels comfortable enough to turn his desire to control things towards you.

Dear Angelique (that is what you name spells, isn't it? )

Richard is really Right about your Boy Friend. that guy does not just have Anger Issues... he has Berserk Rage issues! This is the Guy that smashes computer displays against the Wall, and Flings his Office Chair into the into the Window 84 Floors above the Street... and, Thank God, Yes, the Engineers now anticipate people like your Boyfriend and engineer the Plains of 'Glass' so that they crack and bulge but not separate enough to let an Office Chair fly out and fall some 1220 Feet to the Sidewalk and Street to Kill somebody.

This is Your Warning. His Grandmother DIED in a timely enough manner to Give you Such a Warning. Don't waste it.

This is Where you give your Boyfriend an Ultimatum --- Psychological Evaluation and all the necessary subsequent Therapy, or you will Change Your Name, Move and do everything possible so that he will never be able to track you down, because, well, frankly and quite understandably, you Now think it Entirely dangerous to be with him, that is, as he is.

and, No Kidding... as Angry and Violent as he got at his Grandma's Wake, because he lost AN HOUR AT WORK... well, lets see What He Does to You if you should over draw the Checking Account... Not have Dinner Ready... forget to put the cap back on the Toothpaste.... with This Guy... Well, Anger is Unpredictable.

Some Angry people go in Cycles. They Explode and then they seem to go into Remission. They apparently watch themselves and try not to explode again. But, if you Know such people, then you learn to have a hunch on how long it will take before the Explode Again.

Untreated Anger Problems almost Never go away by themselves. Therapy is almost Always Required, unless the person involved is really very well educated and is willing to Study Up on Anger for his own sake.

But, why Screw Around. Why Re-invent the Wheel all by yourself. if you Know you have a Real Problem, then, Well, shortcut all the Self Help Books... a few of which are really stupid, and get Life Advice from an actual PHD.

Anyway, Kick your boyfriend out. No, Never let him be alone with you in the same room. Your discussions with him should be in front of third and even fourth parties, or in rooms with Open Doors with 3rd and 4th Parties available to come to your rescue... and club your violent boyfriend to death... with your desktop stapler, before he is able to, in some unpredictable Rage... to strangle you to death. Your only hope would be that he did not see that Deadly Stapler first....

Kick him out! Be clear about your conditions for his crawling back. If you lose this guy, well, there are certainty Better Fish n the Sea than this mindless shark.

If he gives you any trouble, tell him you already hired a "Contractor" with payment in escrow, to assure your Boyfriend's certain death if you are 'incommunicado' for any longer than 18 hours... that is... if he puts you in the hospital, or simply pisses you off long enough to call off the Contract, your Boyfriend will know he is Dead Meat.

your boyfriend know you are poor? Okay, make something up. Family is always believable.

Anyway, you need to Keep this Guy away from you until he is Certified SAFE. Yes, there is Doctor Patient Privilege, but if your Boyfriend EVER says that he has been 'cleared' by a Psychologist, well, get an appointment with that PHD and look straight in his Eye. he might not be able to tell you in so many words about the continuing dangerous condition with your Boyfriend, but, if he has a responsible and moral bone in his body, he will give you some Hint or Wink to steer clear of a Patient he was not able to get through too.