What to do waste time

I called her and cancelled the visit now I regret

What say you to my decision? This isn't a complaint a question

Did I make my mother sorry?

I wouldn't worry. She's accustomed to it.

I decided to go and called her.

Candid wrote:I wouldn't worry. She's accustomed to it.

Your response implied that my cancellation upset my mother that's why I decided to go.

Desperate, you've been upsetting your mother for four decades. She would have liked you

to be happy
to grow into a man who could manage his own life instead of asking everyone else what to do in every tedious aspect of your life
to marry a nice woman and have children
to enjoy your career and care about the work you do for your clients
to help people not so well off as yourself instead of all this navel-gazing you do.

Your mother has been disappointed over and over again because she didn't get the son she had every right to expect. She's never let you down, though; she's kept on caring about you. "He arranges to see me, he cancels, then he cancels the cancellation..."

That's what I meant when I said she was accustomed to it. She got past her disappointment long ago and accepts you -- loves you -- exactly as you are. She knows, in her old age, that she can't rely on you for anything, can't even ask you for anything. That's your sister's role, to take care of your mother.

In short, she's a wonderful person, and you should understand that you won't have her for ever. Who else do you think will tolerate being let down over and over again? No one.

So when you want answers to your many questions, whether to have another cup of tea, whether to take this drug or that drug, whether walking harms your health or the million and one other stupid questions we see here, call your mother. Ask her. Talk to her every day. Take her advice, always.

And maybe, just maybe, ask her once in a while how she's feeling. If she's not feeling too good, if she has any problem at all, ask how you can help. Then, no matter what she says, do it. Help her. Do what she wants you to do.

You have a lot of making up to do, from dumping your misery and indecision all over her to at least trying to make her happy for once before you lose her.

I depend on my mother and board for every aspect of my life. This isn't healthy I know but what can I do with this low iq. I can't understand anything what can I do? I will try to be an intelligent independent healthy man. I want to be. It's physical this low iq relaxation prob I think.

Anyone want to chat about life our problems and worries?

Sure. 12 hours from now I land in Shanghai. My problem is navigating the below:

https://geoawesomeness.com/track-china- ... ath-wuhan/

Any advice?

It's like a science fiction movie but it's real sometimes wish end of world's hence my suffering ends.

Glad you didn’t make the advice about you.

Cancel the trip

desperate788 wrote:Anyone want to chat about life our problems and worries?

My "problem" at this point, is getting up to speed in this sales position I signed on for within the last two weeks. It's all up to me, I've got some deeply ingrained habits to change, and I know I can do it when I put my all into this.

I, myself, have been suffering many anxious thoughts and feelings over the recent months, due to financial concerns. But, I also know that it is up to me to take heed and think differently and act differently.

How about you, desperate?

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:Sure. 12 hours from now I land in Shanghai. My problem is navigating the below:

Any advice?

Sure. Eat plant-based foods, preferably raw as much as possible. Make that a lifestyle choice. Keeping one's own system clean mitigates the damage if one happens to "catch" something. It's all about the terrain.

I don't know what you've been doing up to this point in this regard. Not sure my advice would apply to someone whose diet is diametrically opposed to the one suggested.

Otherwise, HAVE FUN!!