Anonymousneedshelp wrote: Please helpppp
It is definitely an unhealthy relationship.
But you already knew that. You KNOW it is an unhealthy relationship. It is not a secret. It is not hard to see. In fact, it is so very easy to see that you have posted in this forum explaining very clearly what you already know to be true. His constant, unhealthy need for reassurance is a huge problem. That he has suicidal ideation and uses it as a means to control other people by saying things like, "I don't know what I would do without you..." is a huge red flag and problem.
So I'm not sure what type of help you expect? You already KNOW what you 100% must do. You are just scared. You fear doing it. You don't want to do it, because it hurts. But that doesn't change anything. It doesn't change what you already know.
You break up.
Make it quick. Be direct. Don't drag it out. Tell him that you have decided to move on. Tell him that you will be reflecting on your mistakes, on how you allowed yourself to become involved in an unhealthy relationship. This will ease the burden on him, by you taking some responsibility for your part in the situation.
Note, I'm not saying you are to blame. Try to stay away from blaming him or blaming yourself.
Next, be prepared for the guilt trip. Be prepared for him to make threats of self-harm. Do not fall for these ways to guilt, shame, or coerce you into staying in an unhealthy situation.
There is no other option. You are not going to "fix" or otherwise negotiate some solution to manage this relationship.