Me and her are both 17 and going into grade 12 in September. We met in January and have been dating for 6 months. We are young and I am her first boyfriend. A lot of people are telling me to move on because we are in high school and she's not making me happy. I love her.... and she loves me. I do not know how I know but I want a future with this girl. We are very close emotionally and I tell her everything. We are comfortable enough to be our weird selves. I don't know if this matters but she is very against sex so that doesn't happen. That has been a topic of disagreement between us but I respect her wishes and am willing to wait for her as long as she needs. (That's rough for a 17 year old boy just saying)
I do not know all the details of her conditions but I do know that she is currently in a "family style" treatment (whatever that is) and is recovering from anorexia and depression. She has body image issues even though she is amazing inside and out. Her treatment is focused on her physical recovery and she has 2-3 appointments per week. Her parents are great for her, they are focused on her well being. The only problem is that they don't like me and are worried about me hurting her. They think I have the wrong intentions so they are telling her to break up with me. This is the situation that (i think) caused what is going on now.
Typically, my girlfriend goes through highs and lows. I've seen them both and I think I have been there for her in both situations. She is generally happy when she is with me and isn't upset a majority of the time. She is going through a really rough patch right now. Her parents are stressing her out because they don't like me and she is very stressed out by summer school. She texted me today saying "Lately, I've been at the lowest I've ever been emotionally. I've been thinking a lot and I can't handle being in a relationship". This has happened before when she's said she's not ready for a relationship. We had an awkward break from each other but we still saw each other all the time and held hands and were basically really good friends who held hands. This gradually grew back into us being together without either of us even realizing it. I am thinking that it is another time where she is pushing me away because she is worried about hurting me or vice versa. Even after she texted me that ^ she told me she loved me. A week ago she sent me a huge message saying all the things she liked about me and even fantasizing about a future with me. She later said that she let her heart take over what she was saying (which doesn't normally happen because she is head strong) and that she doesn't want to talk about it again because the future freaks her out.
In summary, I know she has feelings for me. I know she loves me. I also know she is going through a rough spot right now, right after a spot where she was filled with emotions for me. She is planning on breaking up with me because she can't handle a relationship. She's done that before and it worked out.
I will not give up on her. Ever. I want to be by her side and help her love herself as much as I love her. I'm even willing to give her the space she needs. I have been researching this online and apparently its a common thing with depressed .people in relationships.
ADVICE!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
