The Aftermath Of Anger

I dont care about them too and i go on not to care if one of them falls or in problem socially i dont gossip i dont abuse but they do that generally people

If human psyche were suitable to live alone i would choose that.

desperate788 wrote:If human psyche were suitable to live alone i would choose that.

I met this Old Guy about 50 years ago, who also thought he couldn't live alone, no, he told me that a Man needs a Mule. You get some essential tools, a couple ropes, and a rifle and you just head out into the Mountains. You'd either live off the land or people would give you odd jobs, more worried that the mule might starve than you. No, I never did that. But most the time I'm alone from human company, but then I got 4 cats. The Secret a lot of people have discovered is that Loneliness can be assuaged by having Fur Friends. Yeah, back when I was in my 30's I was going out a lot and ran up a pretty good credit card debt, between Clubbing and all my Motorcycle and Car expenses. But then I accidentally got a cat, that is, I began taking care of a kitten that had escaped from this one Cat Lady's house... I wasn't going to turn the poor thing over to where she had escaped from. Well, six months later I found I was out of debt. I wondered what happened. Well, what happened was that I wasn't going out to clubs that much anymore because I was actually happy to sit and watch TV with the cat. And she wasn't even that very friendly, as cats go. There are some really companionable cats out there. Dogs are better that way, but perhaps too good, because dogs hate to be left alone, where cats deal pretty well with you going to work and then coming back. Also, you need to walk dogs several times a day or they'll mess the house. And you have to train them to not chew up valuable objects, but they always get to something before they know better. But, yeah, if you only don't want to feel lonely, get a Cat. Generally the neutered males are better companions, but any cat will work. You'll have plenty of lifetime to get a kitten, but make your first cat some Previously Owned Cat. Old People die and their 'Estate' Cats go to the Pound and often get Euthanized unless somebody takes them home. And they are already proved in companions so get one of them. You're not autistic are you? I mean that you would be able to tell when an animal likes you, right? Look around until you find a Cat that likes you and then take it home and fall in love.

I dont like cats too..they remind me my sister.

desperate788 wrote:I dont like cats too..they remind me my sister.

I wonder why a hateful person like yourself can't be perfectly happy. I guess the Universe just doesn't make any sense.

Very wrong. Im not a hateful person i like people usually. But in my life there have been such jerks who not to hate is impossible. Actually i like good people hate bad people.

desperate788 wrote:Very wrong. Im not a hateful person i like people usually. But in my life there have been such jerks who not to hate is impossible. Actually i like good people hate bad people.

Okay, he like Good People and Hate Bad People. Well, where are all these BAD People coming from? Why are you allowing them so far into your life that they get to you. Why are you making yourself vulnerable to Bad People. Are you in Prison? Apparently you have decided to HATE People who are in your Social Circle. Okay, now tell me what sense that makes. Here's a Rule to live by. If you HAVE TO interact with anybody, then you simply can't HATE Them... you gotta make it work. You see your HATE is only a Cognitive Evaluation... your own Opinion... and what do we call an Opinion that can be calculated to cause us Trouble? We call that a Bad Opinion. If you totally cut off a Person from your Social Circle and no longer need them for anything, and they have no way of getting to you to hurt you back, THEN you can Hate them.

But the way I am interpreting your tone, well, YOU seem to be the problem. Really, you don't like Cats? Then you don't like much else either, do you?

Ask yourself whether you honestly think of yourself as the Most Ideal Persona you can Imagine. Are YOU your own Ideal of Perfection? I would guess not. But you seem to be blaming everybody else for that. Why don't you Work On Yourself. You can Change Yourself a whole lot easier than you can change others. I have a YouTube Channel, "Leo Volont", and one of the themes that I strike again and again is Persona Development and striving towards Ideals. Are you one of the large number of people who think that You Should Just Be Yourself? That's CRAZY! You are a Product of all sorts of Conditioning and Sloppy Role Modeling that you had no control over. But NOW you can change that. You heard of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy?

Did you READ anything in this Forum before you just started complaining? Really, I wrote a very good Anger Management Self Help entitled "Anger Management Short Term and Long Term". Really, what do you think this Forum is for? You think that all we do here is VENT about how all our lives Suck So Bad and that makes us Justifiably Angry? If that is what you think then you got the wrong idea. Here Anger is a Bad Thing. So try not to indulge your negativity and try to get with the Program. You want to help yourself, don't you?

liking those jerks seems like an abuse to me ı specially hate homosexuals interested at me

ı will f*** a woman ı cant guarantee but ı think i will

Actually its one of the easiest things in the world

desperate788 wrote:Actually its one of the easiest things in the world

The more worthwhile things in Life are always harder to attain. You'd find out if you ever tried.

an example for these more worthwhile things?

desperate788 wrote:an example for these more worthwhile things?

There is nothing worthwhile for you. You are a creature of Darkness. You must know that already. You've given up on trying to attain Happiness, and so you've settled on attaining to the most dramatic miseries. Really, what are you doing here on an Anger Management Forum. Are you deliberately trying to sow the seeds of hopelessness? I hope that most people can intuit the vast difference between your psychology and theirs, that only a rare person such as yourself has faced the combinations of abuse, neglect and privations that twisted your one Human Spirit into knot of Throbbing Pain. Are you sure you wouldn't be better suited for the Depression Page or maybe Anxiety and Panic Attacks. Really, here, you don't even have the visceral energy to get up a good head of Anger. At least Anger is a Rage against Impotence, but you've completely surrendered into that. So, yeah, I agree with you on this one point, that you are hopeless. On the Anger Management page you are only a distraction. Or maybe you serve a purpose in that people can see that there are people far worse off than themselves, and that however else their lives may have turned for the worse, well, at least they are better off than you.

I aşk what are the worhwhile things in life and you post this this message thats is quite negative and demoralising post as an answer. I may be indeed very dark inside but im struggling a hard battle for a decade to recover you should have respecred that.

desperate788 wrote:I aşk what are the worhwhile things in life and you post this this message thats is quite negative and demoralising post as an answer. I may be indeed very dark inside but im struggling a hard battle for a decade to recover you should have respecred that.

I should respect that you come to the Anger Management Page to mope dejectedly while rejecting all of Anger Management's known to be effective therapeutic tools. That is what you rely on, no, not respect, but sympathy. You come here crying and expect others to cry with you. But, no! This page is for Turning Lives Around, not forever lamenting the Ruins we made of our Lives. You say you're been doing THIS for a Decade, just complaining about how your Life sucks. Well, are you ready for another Decade of the Same... maybe Two? Complaining isn't Therapy, no, it's a consolation. You are trading Happiness for Drama. You're Life should be Romantic Comedy but you've turned yourself into a Hamlet and you come here telling us of all the Ghosts that still haunt you. Get over it!

Oh, and I've forgotten your backstory. Are you a Man or a Woman. I'm trying to do a Portrait of Weakness of you and don't know whether to use long hair or short, a skirt or slacks. I wonder if the Psychologists ever did a study to determine whether Drama is more of a substitute for Happiness with Men or with Women. I did a quick search and found that it is generally agreed that Women have more emotional range than men, that they are more expressive of gratitude and more likely to remember to congratulate others on their successes. But that would only mean that they can do Drama better than men. But I found a section in Wikipedia talking about Coping Mechanisms, and I suppose my category of 'Drama Queening' has gone entirely unobserved by the Psychological Community. Yes, Science offers procedures and methodologies, but it can't make those Nerds and Geeks THINK, that sometimes people Cope through Acceptance of their Hardships and that if they can visibly wallow in their despair that they can become an Object of Pity, you know, "Oh, you poor dear! How we all feel so sorry for you. You are the most miserable one of us all". That is actually what the 12 Step Programs do. You know, Alcoholics Anonymous where at every meeting they have Low Life Contests where each person speaks trying to win the Prize for who the lowest most contemptable Low Life is, or was. I wonder how many people get up and walk out since they find bragging about applied Evil seems disgustingly distasteful, and bragging about their own temptations and weaknesses is exactly what they don't want to be doing.

So, yeah, is their a 12 Step Style Group you can join where with every meeting you can stand up afresh and moan and groan, cry and weep, to your heart's content? But, yeah, you're not angry. So what IS your problem? I suppose you are something like a Vampire. You bring your Darkness and Misery to People who live in the Light and you just start SUCKING. You're a Vampire. I guess the Psychology Departments don't recognize Vampires either. Yeah, it'd be interesting to see how a board of 10 Psychologists would classify you. Have you ever been officially diagnosed?
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