Hi all,
I'm new here and pretty new to the idea of anger management. I've recently began a new relationship and all has been great so far apart from a few bumps concerning her families struggle to accept me, her ex still being on the scene (due to a two year old son) and a best friend who would often lead my partner astray.
Anyway we were sat in the car driving home yesterday when the motorway had pretty bad traffic and this resulted in myself missing a coach i had to catch (which she had paid for and meant that she would have to pay for another since i hadn't been paid yet) which of course would annoy even the most laid back of people. after about 10 minute of being stuck in this traffic she began to take out her frustrations on me, which understood and took on the chin before she started being personal toward me, after a heated argument i asked her to stop going on at me and focus on the road which she had ignored and kept shouting and blaming various things on me, now usually in this situation i would happily remove myself and walk away for a while (i'm big on avoiding negativity until it had disappeared) but obviously due to the fact we were on a motorway in traffic i couldn't exactly get out and walk away to avoid her.
After about ten more minutes of her being really personal towards me i felt my anger building up and began to scream at her telling her to just shut up, because of this her "nervous laugh" came into play which really enfuriates me and i pulled off the visor in her car and punched the dashboard, she kept laughing at me and continued to be personal toward me and wouldn't just let herself stop so i went to grab her by the neck but thankfully stopped myself although she did say that i had hit her and hurt her neck. after the incident i insisted we talk things through and explained how disgusted in myself i was and that really isn't the person i am or wish to be, after a couple of hours of talking things through we kissed and i left but she has since told me she's in two minds about wether to stay with me or not, and i don't blame her.
I was just hoping someone could help me with this situation of how to control my anger when i'm not able to remove myself from the situation and how she can help aswell, her father has always been really abusive to her and her mother with no remorse or want to face up to the fact and i of course don't want to be the same but the relationship itself is often made really hard by everyone around her and it just builds up.
Any advice?