by newyorkisles » Wed Aug 03, 2016 3:45 pm
My girlfriend and I have been talking for 4 months now and everything was going lovely. Her and I have amazing chemistry, the same sense of humor, etc. This past weekend I went upstate to see her (we live four hours apart, met in college) and it was completely different. I saw her the week prior and everything was great but compared to this previous weekend the difference was night and day. Immediately I knew something was wrong, I just sensed it. In previous conversations she told me she suffered from depression at least two times in her life so I expected it could happen again when I am with her. I didn't necessarily ask if she was depressed but the body language and the way she acted towards me is making me believe she is. I feel helpless, I am always the person that she can go to be happy, but this time I don't think I made her happy one bit. She was much more quiet, distant, and didn't want to be touched. She wouldn't hold my hand, we only kissed a few times, and would shrug me off sometimes. Before we would kiss all the time, hold hands, cuddle, laugh at one another's silly jokes. She still called me the nicknames, she still said "I love you", and I do believe it. I think we go really well together, and I am nervous. I confronted her about it on Sunday night and she said she feels restless being at home, and she wants to travel and doesn't want to settle. I told her that I am not here to slow her down, but I am here to help her and support her in whatever she does in life. She worked at a sleep away camp for the whole month of July and she says she misses it more than anything, she just ended the day before I came to visit. She would never cheat on me and I know that as a fact. She hasn't been really saying anything over text, it gets me so sad seeing her be like this. I want to be with her, but I feel helpless and scared. We are going camping in a couple of weeks, and she tells me she is excited. But when she says it she doesn't sound like she is, I don't know if she is being distant because she wants to break up with me or because she is just really sad. She texted me after I left to go home back night saying that she loved the concert and all the mini adventures we went on and she doesn't want me to feel like she didn't. She added that she is just in a really tough place mentally at the moment and apologized. I responded and basically said, "don't apologize on what you are going through, I am always here to support you and it kills me to see you like this. I love you, and if you need time to yourself to figure somethings out I would completely understand. I don't know what to do, I feel helpless and confused. What do you guys think?