Hey All,
I work as part of a small team and ever since this co worker started working with us last year she is been a challenge to work with. It's ranged from her taking projects over initially and at the time we were so stressed with being short staffed before she came and her unwillingness to work as part of a team that we gave up and just let her do what she wanted (bad mistake that we've since recognized and are trying to change). She has spent the year undermining everyone in the team, including the manager and she monopolizes the computer (we only have one that we share among 5 people now) and has recently taken over sitting at the manager's desk (who is currently working from the main office). That started when she got nominated for a program which teaches workers about leadership skills to help them advance in the company.
I know that she is a very insecure person, and for a long time I have been giving her the benefit of the doubt on many occasions, and even with this desk stuff.. I'm like- maybe she just wants more space to work etc. But the way she talks to us, and interrupts conversations when we are asking another co worker about something, or for example, one co worker asked me for clarification on paperwork, I was standing right next to her and this particular co worker came rushing over from the other end of the office to answer the question, effectively "pushing" me away by taking over the paperwork. I find her to be quite rude to this new co worker and I personally think it's because she feels insecure with her (this lady was a top manager of another company before coming to us and has a vast amount of knowledge that we don't- and the co worker I'm referring to cuts her off or tells her the information is not correct despite not knowing anything about the area).
I get anxious thinking about confronting her about some of these things. It's much easier for me to say things when I'm really mad, but recently when I asked her about why she threw away research I gave her (that she asked for) instead of giving it back to me, it made me very anxious to the point of shaking. I have already spoken to the manager (and I know my other co workers have too in their supervision) about these issues and her behaviour, but nothing has changed and I don't even think my manager is talking to her about these issues (although she has witnessed it herself and has said she would talk to her about it).
I'm not sure how to deal with this correctly without coming across like a jerk. I almost want to greet her as the manager in a light-hearted way when she comes in and goes straight to the manager's desk. I haven't done so as yet because I think that would be too passive aggressive, I just find it annoying because she seems to manage us from this position. Any tips or thoughts would be great!
Thanks!