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**Posts:** 5 · by **latic** » Sun Mar 07, 2004 2:33 am

Every single day I am so irritable. Little things irritate me more than big things. I say such mean things to DH because of my moods. Every once in awhile I get so angry at him I just wail on him hitting him. He calmly tells me to stop. When I get so mad that I hit him it happens so fast that it seems I do not even have time to think. It is like one minute he makes me angry and in fast motion I react and hit. I have never hit anyone else but him. I can control my anger with anyone but him. Where do I start to stop this?

**Posts:** 5 · by **latic** » Fri Mar 12, 2004 1:56 am

Oh well, no replies. That's ok. This week I went to the doctor and he put me on medication that should help my moods anyway. He feels that my irritability can possibly be from my mood swings. I do have a seizure disorder as well and have some chemical imbalances to work with. I still want to find out why I can handle my emotions better with other people than I can with my husand. Thanks anyway everyone!

**Posts:** 248 · by **grovelli** » Fri Mar 12, 2004 7:51 am

Hi, welcome aboard!
You can read this thread on anger management and you can also treat your anger with this.

**Posts:** 2522 · by **kfedouloff** » Fri Mar 12, 2004 9:00 am

Hi Latic!

It can get disheartening waiting for a reply! Glad you didn't give up!

I think one of the reasons we find our husbands (or wives) particularly trying is because they are so close - each knows the other's weaknesses and annoying foibles really well, and learning to live with these and accept them without allowing them to destroy a good relationship is a real challenge to all couples!

When I get really mad at my husband, I make a conscious effort to remind myself of all the things I love and appreciate about him, which I know really outweigh all the truly annoying things he does!

Stay on board with us!

Kathleen

**Posts:** 5 · by **latic** » Sun Mar 14, 2004 10:00 pm

Thanks for the replies! I read the link to the previous thread on anger management, it was helpful. I feel I need to start exercising in the afternoons before my DH gets home from work. Maybe that release will give me the edge in being able to gain that second of control I need to think before getting into that trance like anger. I can count backwards from 10 or try to think of different reasons he has said what he has before I respond. Like I said before, with any other relationship I do not have any problem with staying calm and not allowing myself to jump to anger, but I allow such trivial issues to get me angry with my husband.

**Posts:** 17 · by **amber1970** » Wed Mar 24, 2004 2:56 pm

:roll: I sympathise, but I have some advice for your husband, don't be a punchbag or a victim, get some independent help for yourself, it's not all about your wife. You don't have to sit there and put up with it. There's no excuse for domestic abuse. Exercising is fine, but assault is a crime.

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