Hamming wrote:Btw I am arguing now with you.
Precisely. And the minute I realised it, I lost all interest in interacting with you as I prefer to have a conversation or at least a dialogue as opposed to an argument.
Hamming wrote:Btw I am arguing now with you.
That is your big issue in life, that is what you feel is important to discuss?
Instead, every time you open your mouth about an insignificant issue you think you are protecting your respect. What respect do you really believe you hold? Currently people know that when you open your mouth that the words that come out will be about some trivial item not worthy of their time.
Precisely. And the minute I realised it, I lost all interest in interacting with you as I prefer to have a conversation or at least a dialogue as opposed to an argument.
Hamming wrote:
Now still its the hard part to find out what is important and what is not.
Hamming wrote:Is there difference between conversation, dialogue and argument?
read "how to win friends and influence people" like wondergurl suggested.
well yes but remember that if you feel bad when you are wrong & "lose", then other people probably feel the same way.
Hamming wrote:
It feels from all of this that I have to be nice to people even if they are wrong. To make them feel good even if they are wrong and annoying me by being wrong but thinking that I am wrong.
I believe I win friends this way more likely. Its bettter than nothing. And probably then I choose from those friends which I like the most, which are really right, and are able to prove me that they are right, and not because I let them to be right.
also rather than "others are wrong" another way to phrase things is "others see things from a different perspective". and then see if you can see things from that perspective. then you don't even have to agree with that way of thinking. simply understanding may be enough. ie you both see things from a different perspective & neither of you has to be wrong. just 2 different people with 2 different genetic code & 2 different experiences & views on life.
Therefore, most people will bristle at being told that they are wrong. How about you?