Feeling angry....

**Posts:** 15 · by **eekh20** » Sun Mar 05, 2017 9:48 pm

Ok so I didn't know where exactly to post this but as I am feeling very angry right now I feel this is the most appropriate place

Right so basically if someone is nasty to you for no apparent reason and have done nothing to upset them and are made out to be the one in the wrong how would you feel? Yeah very angry its not fair that this has actually happened especially if you have done nothing wrong

But it is even more frustrating when outsiders say that these people have done nothing wrong to me (they had publicly humiliated me by singling me out and saying offensive things) and say that I have a problem for not forgiving them for their actions even though they have hurt me multiple times......and I am the problem for not wanting to put up with this behaviour.......

For ages I did think that there was something wrong with me and I felt a great deal of shame, hurt and upset and I suffered from crippling low self-esteem due to this.....

But now i'm so angry

I guess I just want some advice/support as I feel like I could literally flip out.......I don't think its fair that I have been made out to be the one in the wrong

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Sun Mar 05, 2017 10:11 pm

eekh20 wrote:I guess I just want some advice/support as I feel like I could literally flip out.......I don't think its fair that I have been made out to be the one in the wrong

Okay, assume it is not fair. What do you plan to do about it?

**Posts:** 15 · by **eekh20** » Sun Mar 05, 2017 10:21 pm

I confronted the person who told me that 'I was in the wrong' (sorry for being vague)

They are adamant that I am so I don't know what to do to be honest all I want is for people to know that I am not

**Posts:** 15 · by **eekh20** » Sun Mar 05, 2017 10:22 pm

What would you suggest just out of interest

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Sun Mar 05, 2017 10:27 pm

eekh20 wrote:What would you suggest just out of interest

Well, the very first thing I would do is ask myself, "Why do I care?"

In other words, a starting point is to figure out why you even give a sh*t that another person thinks you are wrong or that other people think you are wrong? So what? What does it matter?

Once you figure out the why...once you figure out what sort of negative impact you think it has on your life, then you can begin to figure out ways to handle it better. For instance, does this person thinking you are wrong result in you losing money, losing a job opportunity, not being able to get a loan? Why exactly does their opinion matter?

And why be vague in an anonymous forum?

**Posts:** 15 · by **eekh20** » Sun Mar 05, 2017 10:33 pm

Because I want to keep things general and straight to the point

You have put that brilliantly and just that response alone has helped a little, it is just so true, its really helped me get some perspective

Thanks so much Richard@DecisionSkills

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