Lost the will to live but not suicidal yet.

the bad news is what you already know ,
you may had a negative experience and it is natural to feel uncomfortable around these guys
the good news is something you may have forgotten,
we can change how we feel about these people and these places we simply need to let the past behind and find ways to have good times like before

trg1223 wrote:Other than this incident, my life is pretty perfect. I'm 16, i have my own truck, i go to a private catholic school, im in all honors classes and have a 3.95 GPA.

This will not be the only time in your life to face a challenge. What do you plan to do? Each time life is no longer perfect you intend to just roll over and give up? You plan to hide from the problem or face it and handle it?

It is a big issue, because at 16 how you decide to deal with a problem is more important than the problem itself. However you face the problem will influence how you handle other problems in life.

Rumors will run their course, they will do their damage. You can choose to feed into them and play the game, or you simply ignore and move forward. The more you play the game, the longer the rumor will live.

Hi,

Well, rumors and gossip are a bad thing. However people will do it. If you want or not.

Like Richard says: the question is how you will react on it.

I once was the victim of gossip. That was in church. Yeah right. That was really really challenging for me as well.
When I asked somebody for help he said to me: just show them they are wrong without words.
The big huge lesson I had to learn was that I was too much focused on people (and the approval of people).
It was a hard time but I went through.

Later I heard about the gossiper (it was only one woman actually who didn't have the courage to speak to me herself) and what happened to her. Let me say: gossiping is not building up somebody. She had some real problems in life.

And about your thoughts:
Do you know that you are the only one who can handle and so - change your thoughts?

Are we to understand that you would like to be able to communicate with your schoolmates on the subject of your rumors? I think the ideal outcome would be for people to base their knowledge of you on facts.

Hi I don't know if you'll see this but just wanted to let you know that I'm going through the same existence dilemna as well but for reasons unknown. For that I pray you get your solution soon.
So i'll try to help in areas I know I can. The high school crowd is probably one of the most immature crowds you can ever meet. College is better but you still have to deal with some idiots nonetheless. So what do I do when someone says something mean or inconsiderate to me-
Instead of reacting, I pause for a moment and smile. Trust me there is nothing more satisfying than to let your bullies see that they're not getting to you. Pause for a moment and THINK: First-Is this person someone important to me? Does this person have a direct impact on my life? Will I be sad if this person ceases to exist? If your answer is NO, then you've already found your solution that WHATEVER they say, however mean it is, isn't going to really affect you. So why waste your energy on someone this immature? Just move on. They'll get their answer. Show them crystal clear that their words don't hurt you. The fact that you acknowledge that you have a good life despite people's negativity shows you are much more mature than them.
This may seem superficial but seriously I've been doing this and it has worked amazing for me. Not only do I avoid stupid drama this way but it's my way of screening what things should or shouldn't bother me. Only take criticism from ppl that matter to YOU and you know has your best interests in their heart.

As for the rumors, people love to gossip. One way of dealing with this can be help from your "real" friends. You can get through anything in life if you have good friends and I don't say that lightly. Treasure them. Stick together. No rumor can touch you. Tackle those rumors head on. Tell your side of the story clearly and confidenty. Your friends will be there to support you.

Wish you all the best, hope this helped