rgsq wrote:I see that you have been able to target my personality ahah, I have difficulties to assert myself in general and this concept undoubtedly emanates in part from that, even if it is intended to be more general.
So I think I have the opposite problem of yours, but if I posted this topic, it's because I consider that the fact of artificially creating a regulation of one's doubts can help people who have trouble making decisions. than people who have trouble controlling them. Unless I'm wrong, if you force yourself to bring interest to your doubts, it should slow down the decision-making process (by better weighing the risks and the benefits) and thus make you less impulsive, right?
If not, when you talk about dysfunctional people, what kind of dysfunctionality are you talking about?
Very interesting the subject of intuitive flashes, and especially for a person like me who finds it difficult to get started sometimes, learning to use his impulses to realize himself in something seems something essential, thank you for sharing the video, I find that you have a very good feeling for discussing the themes that are important to you! But for my case, the problem would be more: how to go to the end of what I undertake (if you have a method to pass me ahah!)
Good Morning Rgsq,
yeah, you make a good point. I would suppose that a lot of indecisive stagnating people are stuck because of their feelings, but that if they forced themselves into thinking, well, then they could arrive at a place where they couldn't avoid making a decision.
Oh, you asked about dysfunctions, well, actually anything that works out with negative consequences is a "dysfunction". In Anger Management we see a lot of people who Stand Up for Doing the Right Thing, and they 'Fight' for Principles, but then it gets them into a lot of trouble: arguing with co-workers, Bosses, social contracts, family members, relationship partners and dates. It's part of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to talk to these people about Observing Consequences of actions with "Is That What You Wanted To Happen?" We get the "I was just standing up for what was Right", but that's what we would call Dysfunctional Thinking, in that it is counter-adaptive, you know, decision making processes that end in bad results. You know, like that Kid with the AR-15 Assault Rifle that went to a Demonstration-Riot in order to protect property that wasn't even his and ended up shooting somebody who tried to take the gun away from him because he didn't look old enough to own a gun. That kid got into a World of Trouble but he'd tell you it was all because of Principle.
Yeah, when we are growing up the adults do their best to instill in us the sense that Life has Rules and we are supposed to be rule followers. Well, that's great for controlling a room full of kids. And in Asia they do really well with their Societies where they live by thousands of rules we never heard of, BUT One Of The Most Important Rules is to let the Guy in Authority be the one to enforce the Rules. Let somebody else Get In Trouble enforcing Rules that often only exist in your own head.
Heck, even the Bosses can get into trouble. Many Corporations are sued for "Hostile Work Place" for maintaining an atmosphere too rich in criticism. I was in the Army once, and when I had been a Division Level Clerk, I'd go out with Inspection Teams during field exercises, and we'd run across a totally dysfunctional Unit once in a while. Bad Morale can be paralyzing. The men just shut down into doing only what they are directly ordered to do, and even then they drag their feet. Yeah, Division will instantly replace the Chain of Command because it's actually dangerous for the men when nobody is actively doing their jobs. I've always wondered that the Officers and the First Sergeant of these Units don't SEE It. They must get into a dysfunctional positive feedback loop and they keep pushing hard when they really need to start backing off. They have a saying: "the Floggings will continue until Morale Improves",,, the men put up signs like that warning the officers that they're ready to shut down, and, really, that will be the end of some careers right there. Really, once before a big IG Inspection we were working about 18 hours a day and we were dragging. I was still just a PFC or maybe a E4 and my Buck Sergeant, a Black Guy named Sergeant Alexander ordered us to get a generated started that just wouldn't start. It was kind of a lost cause. But, I realized it wasn't his fault and we needed to do something with that Generator, and so I made myself get up and pull the rope. After the inspection he gave me a letter of commendation. You see, his career was hanging in the balance. Yeah, he could discipline troops for NOT obeying him, but the thing is that if he's a Leader then Troops should obey him without taking everything to Discipline and Court Marshals. Yeah, we got smart with that generator and pulled the spark plug to make sure we were getting a spark... that was the problem.
Yeah, .... my computer suddenly restarted... that good that Restore Pages works better than before and it save my writing here... but I was thinking about Rules Based Society. Well, in the USA and much of the Western World, well, there is no consensus on what the Rules are, is there? Many of the Freedom Lovers don't want any Rules, or Rules that "There Aren't Any Rules". Then people who do like rules, well, nobody can agree what the rules are. There is a lot of propaganda in the West about how Diversity is a Strength, but Diversity is different Cultures and different Cultures means different rules, different social perceptions, different expectations... people being Judgmental in Incomprehensible ways. We just need to look around and see that Diversity leads to Conflict. The Quick Fix is to get people to lighten up and stop trying to enforce their own Cultural Rules, but the Rules are there for reasons. Civilizations can't be a Chaos, can they?
Yeah, Life is complicated, huh? Oh, thanks for taking a look at my YouTube Channel. The last few months I was really busy with writing projects which would go to Video. But after my last Post, "Kundalini and the Collective Consciousness", well, when I got done that, it just seemed like I was finished for a while. Now I am back to studying Mathematics so I could take on a Retirement Career teaching Math in School if I needed the money. But, yeah, go to the Playlist Menu and all the videos after "Creating a Better God" ("Creating a Better God", "The Material Mechanics of Spirituality", "The Virgin Mary and a Love Story", "Black Sins, Red Sins", and "the White Light Paramahamsa Swan Dream" , and the single video "Kundalini and the Collective Consciousness", well, I'm sort of happy with them, you know, they are important enough to exist, and I don't want to write simply for the sake of writing.... Hmmm, I should make another Playlist of just the Videos that were based on dreams... those are interesting...
Yeah, take care Rgsq (what is that? "Rage Squared") .. let me know what you think.