SELF-REGULATION OF MENTAL : the missing key to happiness ?

Postby rgsq » Wed Feb 23, 2022 10:28 pm

Hello,

I think I hold the missing key to living in a world of harmony. The solution would lie in the initial control that the individual has over his relationship to the world, namely the exploitation of the pressure/relaxation dimension when he enters a disturbed state, in order to free himself from it. It would therefore be a question of taking possession of this pressure/depression exploitation.
I therefore deduced a discipline that allows you to regulate your mind by starting from this principle, and which quickly became natural.

This is simply conditioning yourself to feel guilty about feeling confused (possibly via the keyword "confused..." recalled in the morning). Which, by observation, allows you to stay in a positive mood (because you are in control of your life) and relaxed (therefore also instinctive).

Exploiting the feeling of self-contempt, in an effort to free oneself from confusion (indicating that the mind is mismanaged), leads (instinctively!) to pressure oneself when this state is caused by a particular problem (and therefore to solve and thus not take the risk of letting this problem eat into his mood in the background, and at the same time keep control over his life), or conversely leads to a feeling of depression when the confusion does not seem not have real causes (slowing down your mind in order to devalue the fears that are at its origin, and thus remain relaxed and more in tune with your environment).

Namely, this reaction to the feeling of confusion quickly becomes second nature and therefore does not disturb the mind (at least if it is seen as an asset and not an imperative). It therefore allows on the contrary to be more instinctive and more stimulated because there is less fog in the mind.

I strongly advise you to experiment with it, because you have to test it to realize what it really does!
I found that each time I dropped it, I again alternated between a positive and negative mood, my confrontation with my mood being again conditioned by the vagaries of intellectual laziness (underestimating the appearance of a concern in the mind) or conversely to what I overestimate (my micro-fears, obsessions, manias...).
I therefore think that teaching young people to manage their mind by exploiting the pressure/depression dimension (or in other words inner violence/relaxation), the relationship to oneself tending to be (by experience) drastically better, the relationships would certainly be more harmonious (and therefore society as a whole as well).

Thank you for your attention to this unconventional concept!
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Postby Leo Volont » Wed Feb 23, 2022 11:26 pm

rgsq wrote:Hello,

I think I hold the missing key to living in a world of harmony. The solution would lie in the initial control that the individual has over his relationship to the world, namely the exploitation of the pressure/relaxation dimension when he enters a disturbed state, in order to free himself from it. It would therefore be a question of taking possession of this pressure/depression exploitation.
I therefore deduced a discipline that allows you to regulate your mind by starting from this principle, and which quickly became natural.

This is simply conditioning yourself to feel guilty about feeling confused (possibly via the keyword "confused..." recalled in the morning). Which, by observation, allows you to stay in a positive mood (because you are in control of your life) and relaxed (therefore also instinctive).

Exploiting the feeling of self-contempt, in an effort to free oneself from confusion (indicating that the mind is mismanaged), leads (instinctively!) to pressure oneself when this state is caused by a particular problem (and therefore to solve and thus not take the risk of letting this problem eat into his mood in the background, and at the same time keep control over his life), or conversely leads to a feeling of depression when the confusion does not seem not have real causes (slowing down your mind in order to devalue the fears that are at its origin, and thus remain relaxed and more in tune with your environment).

Namely, this reaction to the feeling of confusion quickly becomes second nature and therefore does not disturb the mind (at least if it is seen as an asset and not an imperative). It therefore allows on the contrary to be more instinctive and more stimulated because there is less fog in the mind.

I strongly advise you to experiment with it, because you have to test it to realize what it really does!
I found that each time I dropped it, I again alternated between a positive and negative mood, my confrontation with my mood being again conditioned by the vagaries of intellectual laziness (underestimating the appearance of a concern in the mind) or conversely to what I overestimate (my micro-fears, obsessions, manias...).
I therefore think that teaching young people to manage their mind by exploiting the pressure/depression dimension (or in other words inner violence/relaxation), the relationship to oneself tending to be (by experience) drastically better, the relationships would certainly be more harmonious (and therefore society as a whole as well).

Thank you for your attention to this unconventional concept!


Good Morning Rgsq

Okay, let's see how much I understand what you're saying. The "Pressure/Relaxation" Dimension is "exploited" when we generate a feeling of "contempt" for ourselves when we fall out of our optimum State of Mind. Sort of like Being Too Proud to Act Weak. Well, that sounds pretty good. On my YouTube Channel I've been dealing with Persona Development as a steady thematic motif, but I've been moving towards the idea of Idealism. I arrived at Idealism from Persona Development because, well, we need to wonder in what direction we are supposed to take our Personas. It is probably an integral part of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, that in replacing bad behavioral habit and bad mental habits, well, we need to replace the bad habits with something, since rarely is it the best choice to do nothing, think nothing. So, when changing our lives towards the Better, we need to have an image in our mind as to what kind of IDEAL we would be striving for. Actors do it all the time, when given a role to play, they need to somehow reduce the character down to some essential set of Ideals, Keys to their Character and then get the feel for carrying that Ideal through whatever Life Situations the Story involves. Of course, many Dramatic Ideals aren't what we would generally understand as "ideal", for instance, the Character may be a backstabbing manipulative coward, but that is still a Persona Type which could be elementalized into an Ideal, for the sake of being able to copy it.

But, yes, your "pressure/relaxation" dimension, well, let's look at the Social Ideals of the Aristocratic Classes before the 20th Century with it's Democratic "Ideals" turned World Culture into a uniformly Low Quality Workers Culture with Poverty as the Norm. When there had been a High Society and Gentlemanly Behavior was the Ideal, well, they relied upon DIGNITY to keep them on the Straight and Narrow. Yeah, for the actual Aristocracies there was the Noble Ideal, you know, 'Noblesse Oblige'.

Yes, being "happy" was often a serious affair and I've seen Moral Codes that frown upon "levity" which we would think looks a great deal like "happiness", but then, I am probably confusing happiness with silliness. For some reason I think my mind has become conditioned to think of Happiness as being productive of Smiles and a Cheery Attitude. But, yes, when we consult the Etiquette Books we find that Cheerful People are recognized as being positive assets for any Dinner Party or Ball. So, yes, I suppose if we were to carefully define "happiness" we would have to concede that while it is often accompanied by a smile, the smile isn't strictly necessary, but just a sense of Self Satisfaction or contentment.

So, yeah, how close am I to what you were explaining?
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