I resigned...

Good luck calmy,

You needed to leave. Let us know where you end up. Use the time to work on yourself.

It looks awesome place to work where everybody is chatting and so on. You have an edge then if you work more than they and could earn more and be respected more.

So I don't understand where is the problem. They did not care about more work and did not respect more ?

Then maybe could try to do someting about it, but otherwise yea, maybe leaving is good option if you are sure you easily will find another job.

Good luck Calmy

Congratulations!

You might have made the best decision after weighing pros and cons for such a long time. Try not to worry. There's a saying "When this door closes, another opens." It is true in life. You just have to learn to be positive and optimistic.

Besides, whatever happens, it's not the end of the world. When I went to volunteer at some homeless shelters, I saw people standing here, sitting there, sleeping on the floor or at the tables, chatting, singing, playing games, cards, music instruments... I felt... (sigh)... I wouldn't want to be in that situation... but honestly, it's not the end of the world even when people don't have a job and a house.

I understand for some people, they are very worrying when they don't have a job. But for some others, they don't really care (if I could say). When you make more money, you spend more; when you make less, you spend less. Try to be frugal when you don't have a job and you will overcome this difficult time.

Take this time to rest, relax for awhile, meditate or pray, read self-help books, learn strategy to find a new job. Search for articles on Google how to get along with co-workers, or deal with office politics, etc... improve yourself and get ready for the next job.

Best wish and good luck.

It's interesting how fate turn out in the end... i finally get to met D's wife for the first time. My manager and I were heading to the office and we bumped into D and his wife. D started introducing our manager to his wife. I had my eyes fixed on her trying to find a way to introduce myself to her but she didn't look at me, she keep talking to my manager non-stop for the past 3 minutes. What a bitch!! I can see how they are perfectly match - they both look down on people below them!

One more week of work left. Seems like D doesn't know that I'm leaving. I can't wait to leave this place! I feel like I have wasted my 'youth' over a guy who is not the type of person I imagined him to be. I felt 'used' and I hate myself for that!! I can't act professional when I'm around this guy...he ignored me at work because I'm no longer useful to him and I absorbed this like a sponge.

Goodluck calmy..

There's more opportunity outside for you don't worry.

calmy12 wrote:... I imagined him to be. I felt 'used' ...

Used by your own imagination, not by D.

Leaving will give you an opportunity to work on this imagination you have. The next job you find, how will you approach the situation differently? What have learned to make sure you don't create another fake relationship?

Let go and move on, calmy. Why do you care so much about someone who does not care about you. Learn from your past mistakes. If you feel used, then learn to be smart, don't let anybody to use you. Ann Landers, a famous columnist in USA, once wrote "Nobody can take advantage of you unless you let that person to."

And if you keep thinking, clinging to the past, or bad present, too much, you cannot move on. Pay attention and energy to make something better than in the past for your life.

Another opportunity waits for you. Best of luck to you.

Will it be unprofessional for me not to turn up to work tomorrow? I'm going to take two days off and plan to show up on my last day which is Friday.

The past two days have been very stressful. I don't want to face D anymore. I have tried to avoid him and not even look at him. He's a nice person - at the end of the day, he said goodbye to me. It's just that I'm so scared what comes out of his mouth.

It would be considered unprofessional. You did the professional thing by turning in two weeks notice. That will help get you a good reference for a new job. Do not ruin it by now not turning up to work. I have seen people do that before and that is the way they are remembered.

Updates? I literally read through most of your threads... and my what a colorful character you are!

Join the club. I resigned my job Friday afternoon about a week ago. "Effective Immediately." I set the envelope on the manager's desk and quietly left, as though I were simply ending my day and going home. And that was that. And, no, I don't have a replacement job anytime soon.
Hopefully you have some savings set aside. Unemployment won't kick in for six weeks since you resigned ("quit" as some like to say)...
Enjoy the life of freedom for awhile until you're ready to enslave yourself again.
"If you want the jewels, you must follow the rules"