Friendship group

Postby happy14 » Tue Dec 21, 2021 2:37 pm

HI everyone,

I have been friends with an person A for about 20 years now, we used to go to the same secondary school together and have been friends through thick and thin. Now i was friends with these other two people (Person B & C) who also went to the same school but I was friends with them and not person A, It was me who got him to hang around with person B & C when we were that age. As it happens the relationship with B & C went sour over time and we drifted apart and thats fine, however what happnened is that person A bumped into person B recently at a shopping mall after all these years and they exchanged numbers and had since been in contact with BOTH B & C, I didnt know about it at the time however he told me recently that he has been in contact with both, I was a bit surprised but that is also fine as well.

Now he asked me if i was willing to meet them despite what happened between us and im like its ok, I wouldnt want to hang around them all the time but as a one off i wouldnt mind, get to see what they are doing these days, he contacted them for the 4 of us to meet, the other two said they are busy up until xmas and cant meet before then, he however then messaged them a few days after saying that why dont the 3 of us meet up, they both jumped at the chance and met up with him. I must admit I did feel hurt, they both dont want to meet up with me, but im equally surprised that Person A arranged for the 3 of them to meet up as if i was in the same boat I would never have done that as i am loyal to person A.

Since then I have met Person A and he is acting super weird, the least time we met he wouldnt give me much "goss" on the meet up they had and there were a number of silences between us, i just thought to myself what is going on, i know for certain that Person B & C love a good gossip so things must have been said about me, now i am angry and dont know what to do. I know for a fact if i had done this to Person A he would be FUMING, but he expects me to deal with it in a calm manner as if nothing has happened.

What would you guys do in that situation? Person A is so hard to talk to at times as he doesnt do "feelings", I on the other hand if something is bothering me i dont mind speaking up.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Tue Dec 21, 2021 3:43 pm

happy14 wrote:What would you guys do in that situation?


I move on with life.

I’ve got too many things going on to waste energy on whatever relationship dynamic is happening with persons A, B, and C. But that’s just me.

It’s as if you want to create drama in your life? You want the “goss” and don’t want irrelevant people discussing you. Why? What is NOT going on in your life that would motivate you to waste your time on this issue? What are you not focused on? What are you not accomplishing in life, that has you going down the path of engaging in seemingly insignificant relationship drama?
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