by garbles » Fri May 05, 2006 9:50 am
It is awful isn't it. This feeling of withdrawal will not last for ever. Why are you worried that you have something else wrong with you?
Before I went back onto my meds. I was convinced that I had everything wrong with me, and once I had a pain somewhere, I believed that I was going to die. Do still think this some time, but I guess when you are depressed you think that maybe this a way out. Of course it is not. But the only way I could get it out of my head was to go the docs. and ask him to check me. He was very good, probably thought I was a hyperchondriach, but at least he reassured me that I was okay, until the next time. Don't be ashamed to ask. If you find it hard to speak to him, why don't you write him a letter before you go to see him. I now do this all the time, as I find it so much easier to write what I am feeling, as when I get there I can't remember what I was going to say.
I know that doctor's say being depressed will not last for ever, but I am sceptiple. But being on top of it is the answer. As I said I have been depressed for over 10 years and when I think about it was probably in my teens as well. Am 46 now. Long time isn't it. I do have a very supportive family, my lovely 4 children. My eldest daughter is 15 and understands so much. My eldest is 18, but he is off to university soon, and just really does his own thing, not to say he doesn't care, he does understand, but just doesn't make a big thing of it, same as my two youngest age 12 and 11. They have accepted that mum is mum, and acts a little weired and is not like their friend's mum, but they don't love me any less. My husband copes in his own way, although I know it has affected him. I did offer to leave, but he says he is quite happy to carry on, and says he loved the woman he married, not that he doesn't love me now. I guess it is a different kind of love.
I really do try, some days I can cook a meal, sometimes I can't. Sometimes I can do the washing, sometimes I can't. Don't do much housework now, even though I used to be so house proud. But I ended up beating myself up trying to keep everything going. Plus working full time. I then realised that it didn't matter if all the chores were not done. Nobody else seemed to care. It takes a lot of pressure off. I don't think it has damaged my kids, they are very bright, well adjusted, polite, clever children and independent, which is what you want right.
So am feeling pretty awful at the moment, constantly sick, can't eat, head spinning, can't sleep, but apart from that great.
Please get in touch if you ever want to chat and let me know how things are going. Get that pen and paper out. You might find it difficult at first, but once you start you will find you need another piece of paper.
Much love