I don't understand people

I understand how you want the world to work. It doesn't work that way. It is not the fault of the human race for not responding to your thread. It is your fault for not knowing your audience and posting low quality content.

And 50 people have not looked at your thread. You don't know how how the system works. It could be that 10 people looked 5 times each. I responded with some helpful advice at least twice. This probably means I count for at least 4 views.

Bottom line, you are responsible for your self esteem. The human race is not responsible for your self esteem. If you want to boost your self esteem, stop blaming others for your problems. If you cook a crap hamburger, it isn't the customers fault if they don't want it. If you post a crap survey in a forum you are unfamiliar with, don't blame the members who you don't know for not responding. If you have been writing a blog for 3 years and don't have thousands of followers you can survey, don't blame others for your inability to gain traction. If you don't get a warm fuzzy from others, don't blame them for you not getting your warm fuzzies.

The sooner you learn you are responsible for your warm fuzzies, the sooner your self esteem will start to go up. Until then, you will simply continue to blame others.

i have read your questions and i did not feel like i have something to say because the questions was no attractive enough

how old are you?
are you male/female?
are you confident?
what makes you feel confident?
from 1-10 how confident you are ?

the problem is that there is no consistency of how you feel
sometimes i am excited, sometimes relaxed
sometimes afraid , there is no consistent 1-10 experience of something

if you would ask what are you afraid from. that is a question that leads somewhere i may say i fear my financial life or whatsoever

and the question would be better if you would be more specific like asking about do you fear rejection, mistakes, is that when you focus there you make it easier to answer

but if i make a really wide question like tell me who are you? that's a wide f question it may confuse you and you dont answer, if i want answer from you i be more specific like:

how do you deal with rejections in life ?
do you know that when we approach someone else we should respect the fact he/she may reject you, its not like all the women who i asked to go out with said yes, most of them said no ,

you should respect the fact you may be rejected
but you should also believe on success so you dont quit too easy and have the will power to make things happen

To boost your self esteem and confidence you have to understand yourself first and foremost. There isn't much point in trying to "understand" other people if you don't. Also bear in mind that most or at least many people are quite wrapped up in themselves and so are not always judging or appraising you, however having self esteem issues makes you think that they are.

Listen down into yourself and learn what it is that really makes you tick, identify the nature of your fears and self doubt and then work on gradually making positive change to the way you think and feel about yourself.

Luna Jade wrote:For a 'self esteem and confidence' forum, I just feel like this whole thing kinda sucks. Knowing that 50 people have looked at your post and not wanted to respond? THAT makes my self esteem and confidence feel not all that great

Really? Is that all it takes for you to doubt your self esteem? That must be tough going, relying on others' feedback so much... And the cheek of them not responding the way you want them to respond! I don't know how you put up with that. Then, of course, publicly giving out about it... I wonder what you are trying to achieve by that.

Richard said it very well. Why are u blaming others for your own issues? I understand u come frm a dark history, but in terms of helping yourself in the right direction u have to be accountable for your own actions, not hold others... especially in a social blog like this.

Cmon why do unfeel the need to guilt people and paint humanity in a negative light, maybe people don't know what to say... it's better to give no answer than a bad answer. You can't find your inner peace by having this mind set. Ive also read some of your answers to other people's questions... so without discriminating or to disrespect, I think it is very contradicting to be blaming others for their "lack" of compassion... when you yourself is give others low quality and questionable answers.

The world doesn't owe you anything... it is a very toxic way to think.

You should never depend on others on your elf esteem. I know it's hard that we live in a world that everyone judges on everything. Try to make your own confidence by facing your fears and doing things you've never ever done before. I can guarantee you that if you do have the courage to face your fears, your self esteem will boost through the roof in no time!

Defining your self esteem on how many people have or have not responded to your questions is, at least, unlogical. On the other side of the world some people see some letters on a screen, decide not to respond. And it hurts your esteem? Does sound a bit off right?

In building and maintaining self esteem, there is one thing very important. and it has been touched upon in previous comments. Create an inner reference, in stead of outer reference valuation.

Don't think: ooow these people ignored my post - I suck, instead look at your own values: I wanted to reach out? Did I do that? Yes great! Did it help? No? Learn and try again.

Use your own values - goals and judgements, not the (perceived) judgements of others to value yourself.