Stop therapy?

Congratulation on your progress.

What you say makes perfect sense: You dont want to be offensive and you dont want to burn bridges. At the same time you sense a need to move on corrosponding with your experienced progress.

Also there is the issue of your "sexual identity" that you are not comfortable discussing with her and your experience of her not supporting you going off your meds.

As I read you, you worry a bit about your own motives or at least the appearence of motives for wanting to stop seeing your therapist. As in "will she think that I didnt give her a chance?".

I guess the problem is about your lack of trust in her and what that means. If you dont trust your therapist it could be argued that you are to blame for not "trusting her" or "not giving her a chance to prove herself trustworthy" or "not really committing yourself to the therapy".
On the other hand there could be valid reasons why you dont trust her: she could have displayed a lack of a certain kind of sensitivity or other shortcomings not helpfull towards trust in this area. If you are not the same sex that can play a role as well (you didnt make your gender clear in your post ).
So the lack of trust has the potential of invalidating both of you.

What is important is that none of the above nessesarily has any truth to it. As you yourself mention there are other reasons for you to end your therapy so the trust issue might roar its head just because of the potential invalidation it could bring.

And even if lack of trust really did play a mojor motivating role the lack of trust could be based on facts a lot less invalidating that the ones mentioned. In some therapeutic relations there is a natural trust because of some kind of mutual recognition. In others both will have to work harder to get there.

I think you should give it all good consideration and then make up your mind and stick with that. If you have regrets later you can deal with that then.


cheers

Seven years IS a very long time!

In that time you would build up a bond with anyone - just contrast the amount of time you spend in their company in the course of a year, with the amount of time you spend with your friends in the course of a year. So it can feel difficult to change, because it means (potentially) breaking that bond. It doesn't necessarily mean breaking that bond (if you don't want to). You could investigate working with another therapist - see what they have to offer you, ask questions about how long you would be working with them (I am assuming that now you would be looking for someone who can help you achieve change in a shorter time span). If you are happy with that, you can tell your present therapist that you have decided to take a new tack. You are an independent person, and you can choose who you ask to help you, and when, and how.

Good luck, whichever way you go!

Kathleen

PS to tagfat - are you checking your PMs tagfat?

"PS to tagfat - are you checking your PMs tagfat?"

I wasnt. Thanks.