Did I unintentionally abuse younger brother?

by **Shaun83** » Tue Dec 17, 2019 9:31 pm

I still get severe anxiety about the time when I was approx 12/13 years old. I was first discovering sexual feelings and would hump my mattress whilst fully clothed.

On one occasion my much younger brother who was about 3 or 4 at the time came in my room and interrupted me whilst I was doing this. For some reason I carried on humping my bed and my brother must of thought I was playing and jumped on my back.

Anyway I still carried on humping the bed but the weight of my brother made me get aroused for one of the first times. I can’t remember but I think at this point I freaked out and stopped.

I just keep thinking that I should’ve known
better what I was doing at the time.

When you look into child on child sexual abuse it says any sexual activity (even unintentional) is still classed as sexual abuse.

I can’t stop worrying if I’ve committed a sexual offence as a child.

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 12:37 am

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Already answered.

by **Shaun83** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 1:32 pm

I was just hoping for someone else’s perspective on this especially the below definition.

‘Child on child sexual abuse is when a younger child becomes involved in a sexual activity even when unintentional’

At the time I didn’t realise what I was doing and then I started to feel aroused when my younger brother climbed on top of my back.

I feel racked with guilt and shame. Should I have known better as a 12/13 year old?

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 1:48 pm

You’ve been banned from the forum how many times now? Have you kept track?

by **Shaun83** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 1:53 pm

I’ve never been banned from the forum?

Just looking for another perspective on a situation that’s causing me severe anxiety.

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 2:52 pm

Shaun83 wrote:I’ve never been banned from the forum?

Yes you have.

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Leo7896

All pretending to be confused about unintended abuse of a sibling. How this particular account was not banned I’m not sure. It must have slipped through the cracks.

by **Shaun83** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 3:15 pm

Richard, I honestly don’t know what you’re talking about.

I cane here asking for genuine advice back in March. My anxiety has recently crept back in so wanted to get another opinion.

Why would I be banned?

by **Shaun83** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 3:28 pm

Would be great to hear a response of someone actually trained in mental health or child sexual abuse cases.

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 3:31 pm

Shaun83 wrote:so wanted to get another opinion.

No you don't. You want a different opinion.

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 3:33 pm

Shaun83 wrote:Would be great to hear a response of someone actually trained in mental health or child sexual abuse cases.

Perfect. If that is what you want, then stop wasting your time trolling in an anonymous forum.

by **Shaun83** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 3:37 pm

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:
Shaun83 wrote:Would be great to hear a response of someone actually trained in mental health or child sexual abuse cases.

Perfect. If that is what you want, then stop wasting your time trolling in an anonymous forum.

Richard looking at your many abrupt and unsympathetic responses it seems that you maybe the troll.

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 4:09 pm

I'm giving you solid advice.

There are no trained mental health professionals that participate in this forum.

If that is what you truly wanted...if you actually wanted to hear advice from a mental health professional, then you would go and seek out that advice. If you were actually seeking help then you wouldn't waste your time in an anonymous forum where any random person can give an opinion and claim they are the Queen of England or equally they might claim to be a certified clinical therapist.

**Posts:** 9885 · by **Candid** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 4:42 pm

Shaun83 wrote:Would be great to hear a response of someone actually trained in mental health or child sexual abuse cases.

That's me, all of that and the Queen of England as well, about to request that you be banned again.

**Posts:** 3020 · by **tokeless** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 4:58 pm

Richard@DecisionSkills wrote:I'm giving you solid advice.

There are no trained mental health professionals that participate in this forum.

If that is what you truly wanted...if you actually wanted to hear advice from a mental health professional, then you would go and seek out that advice. If you were actually seeking help then you wouldn't waste your time in an anonymous forum where any random person can give an opinion and claim they are the Queen of England or equally they might claim to be a certified clinical therapist.

I'm actually a trained MH practitioner but all I see here is personality issues. He doesn't want answers just indulgence. He's had answers and still beats the same drum.

by **Shaun83** » Wed Dec 18, 2019 5:15 pm

Candid wrote:
Shaun83 wrote:Would be great to hear a response of someone actually trained in mental health or child sexual abuse cases.

That's me, all of that and the Queen of England as well, about to request that you be banned again.

Not been banned before but whatever makes you happy.

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