by whybotherwhynot » Fri Feb 22, 2019 2:49 pm
When I first read your post, I thought you were an extreme introvert because people that type are usually labeled as socially awkward by the society. And then it got to your head, and you believed that yourself too.
But then I read Richard’s reply, guessing you were “talking too much”, then I’m not sure if you are an extrovert (?)
From my observations in life and at work, I see that mostly extreme extroverts criticize the extreme introverts as socially awkward; and on the reverse, the introverts would say the extroverts as arrogant and annoying. On the either side, all people have good and bad, strong and weak points.
I don’t know what you really are. But whatever you are, you are not alone. If you want to be liked, you need to have a good look at yourself. Ask yourself a question do you like yourself? If not, learn to change what you don’t like. If you are the kind who talk too much, learn not to talk so much. If you are the kind who are too quiet, learn to speak up, to talk a little bit more. Take baby steps by beginning with saying “hi, good morning, how are you?” to your co-workers. Eventually, ask “how’s your day going?” Most people will reply politely and ask you back. If someone’s grumpy or ignores you, you just let go, and don’t take it personally. Show your interests in others and share a little bit about yourself. Remember not to ask too much or share too much about people's and your personal life; otherwise, you would be considered as being nosy or your information might be coming back to bite you later.
Anyway, workplace is a place to work, not really a place to make friends though. Believe me. When you come to work, try to be nice reasonably and professional. You will be okay.
Don’t try too hard. Learn to take things easy. Learn to balance yourself between the E and the I type. I know it’s easier said than done. But try.