Lost in procrastination

**Posts:** 9 · by **Mrozowska** » Tue Mar 29, 2016 4:57 pm

Hello, I am 17 years old, I am about to finish high school in 2 years, and here is my problem.

Basically, I feel like I am wasting my life and I don´t really know what to do to stop it. Most of the time I am really bored and un-enthusiastic and I spend all the time by procrastinating.

Yes, many people do this, unless they realize that they are wasting time and they get no satisfaction from it. So they start to do something that is worth doing (eg. hobby, getting a better job, education etc.)

But my problem is that I fully realize that I am wasting my life yet I REALLY DONT KNOW WHERE TO HEAD. I am not singinficantly good at anything and I dont have any significant hobbies so I dont get too much ideas about what to set for a goal. But when I do set a goal, soon I realize that it is either too useless, or the ratio of the work to get it done to the satisfaction it gives you when its done is really low.

It is very hard to explain but my friend says it means that I have too high expectations and I realise I can´t fullfill them, so I dont even try to fullfill them...thats probably the closest simple explanation of my problem.

It makes me very angry/apathetic( "I dont care about anything" like), unconfident and vulnerable to stupid things like alcohol and weed, which are a temporary relief from this situation.

Thanks for answering me.

**Posts:** 2008 · by **WonderGurl** » Tue Mar 29, 2016 5:17 pm

Boy, I felt exactly the same way when I was your age. It took me till last year to figure out what I wanted to do with my life, and I'm 31. Not saying it will take you this long, but the best thing you can do based on my personal experience is find something that remotely interests you and do it. Then when you're getting bored with that, look for the next thing. Keep getting to know yourself via trial and error and eventually you will figure out what you want to do with your life. Very few people know what they want to do with their lives from an early age, most of us mere mortals just have to keep looking for it until we find it.

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Tue Mar 29, 2016 5:20 pm

It sounds like you are setting big picture goals that are distant without setting smaller sub-goals or milestones.

For example, if I set a goal to earn a PhD it will take a minimum of 4 years and on average takes most people 7 years to complete. Instead, I set extremely small subgoals that only take 1 week to accomplish. Focusing on these short term goals, motivation is maintained.

**Posts:** 84 · by **hubertkoh** » Wed Mar 30, 2016 8:58 am

Not everyone will know their goals immediately. if even they do, they might look back and think that it was not right after all.

As clique as it might sound, go with your interest first. And ready fire aim.

Do something about it first, then decide if this is what you like.

**Posts:** 330 · by **cynthialeighton** » Thu Mar 31, 2016 6:47 pm

Mrozowska wrote: I spend all the time by procrastinating.

Be compassionate for yourself. Look at what you're grateful for -- people, situations, things. Follow your gratitude and you'll find it sparks your interest because it'll help you know what matters to you. Knowing what's important to you will give you clues to what to do.

Then, knowing what you care about, instead of procrastinating you'll begin to be able to mix up saying "No!" to some stuff with doing what you want to do and doing what you feel you need to do.

I say begin because life is not so clear cut as to be able to instantly follow a path fully... change takes effort over time.

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