Anger and negativity.

**Posts:** 52 · by **pljames** » Sat Mar 01, 2014 3:55 pm

I have been negative all my life ,accept for lately. I was angry with myself (which I would not admit) and the world. I have mellowed and I am very happy. I now see I was my own worst enemy, (which I would not see). Dealing with ones problems can be catastrophic. Be honest with yourself and your therapist. Time and truth will heal you. pljames

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Sat Mar 01, 2014 9:31 pm

How did your therapist help you to let go of your anger?

**Posts:** 52 · by **pljames** » Sat Mar 01, 2014 10:03 pm

JuliusFawcett wrote:How did your therapist help you to let go of your anger?

They didn't. All they wanted me to do is accept my situation that created my anger. I had to learn I created my anger, I allowed it to control me and not vice versa. I had the power to overcome it, but I refused. That's not to say all therapist want you to accept it's your fault, anger controls you and you should control it, there are therapist out there who can allow you to understand you and you alone are the culprit plus your anger. Paul

**Posts:** 45 · by **Hani** » Mon Mar 03, 2014 1:36 pm

You have created your anger. It's great that you accepted responsibility for that. Now, your next step would be to find out what created that anger; what's the root cause, and resolve it.

You may need to do that through forgiving yourself and the other person or persons who harmed you, whom you feel angry towards.

So much can be achieved through forgiveness of the self and others. Forgiving them for what they did to you, and forgiving yourself for allowing them to do what they did to you.

**Posts:** 52 · by **pljames** » Tue Mar 04, 2014 12:45 am

Excellent point, but I feel horrible because I was not aware that my grandson was learning from my misplaced anger, which again was my alter ego using my sub-conscious. That's what bothers me more than anything. I want to claim ignorance, sub-conscious ignorance from my alter ego. There's got to be someway, I can either believe I sinned or didn't sin. If I sinned then I have to ask God to forgive me, but not about forgiving myself is a deep issue for me. Paul

**Posts:** 187 · by **Fackeffaced** » Tue Mar 04, 2014 3:56 am

Anger never really brings happiness and peace of mind. Instead try to accept possibilities of loss, problems, and misunderstanding, and then analyze why this happening and find the root cause. Then if you already knows what's the caused take a deep breath, relaxed and think very carefully and surely to solve it.
If you are angry, your not able to think clearly because the hatred conquers it, that's why it's impossible or it's very difficult to conclude a problem or a misunderstanding, (we cannot solve a problem with a another problem). The important is you must learn how to forgive first, because it is the key for the peace that we are looking for.

**Posts:** 52 · by **pljames** » Tue Mar 04, 2014 1:17 pm

If I ask God to forgive me he knows I cannot forgive mysel, so I am still sinning. I am totally aware of anger. "That I do not want to do, I do, that I do want to do, I do not" Saint Paul. These words haunt me because I know they are true. I have sinned and passed that sin down to my grandson, that deeply hurts me. I saw it in his eyes. He looked up to me and I let him down. Sin is a horrible thing and I hate it. The word hate is a sin as well. Tho I can learn from it. I will put it in Gods hands. Cain said, "my sin is more than I can bare" Paul

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Tue Mar 04, 2014 4:58 pm

I forgive myself, it is possible to do so.

**Posts:** 52 · by **pljames** » Tue Mar 04, 2014 7:32 pm

It is. After Judas betrayed Jesus he hung himself, his sin was more than he could bare. If he had went to Jesus and ask his forgiveness, would Jesus forgive him, my guess is yes. Cain stated to God, "my sin is more than I can bare". I left it up to God to help me understand why I did it, where my excuse is alter ego programming, but I now think sin, mine. I even think our alter ego in sin. Paul

**Posts:** 52 · by **pljames** » Tue Mar 04, 2014 8:56 pm

All my life I have been angry, depressed, judgmental. Now late in life I understand why. I think my anger as well realizes these changes or my alter ego and is fighting for it's power over me. On the other side I see a whole (new) me, patients, understanding, love, caring, I want to lean toward the new me and get rid of the old me. How strong is my resolve here? I could get angry about having all these problems all my life, but that would not help at all. I see and like the new me over the old me, but the old me is fighting for it's survival. how can it do that psychologically? Paul

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Tue Mar 04, 2014 9:45 pm

I think forgiveness helps us to let go of the past and keep us in this moment, free of resentment.

I think accepting this moment as it is helps to keep us satisfied, and being grateful for all of the good things life has to offer. Both thankfulness and acceptance are directly opposite to the ego. The ego is never satisfied, so as soon as we choose to be satisfied we automatically dissolve the ego.

Love is the healing force, caring, respect, support, appreciation, approval, kindness, all dissolve the negative thought patterns of fear, anger, jealousy, blame, guilt, resentment, tension, stress, sorrow and criticism.

**Posts:** 52 · by **pljames** » Tue Mar 04, 2014 11:36 pm

"I think forgiveness helps us to let go of the past and keep us in this moment, free of resentment".

Excellent thought. Well said. Paul

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Wed Mar 05, 2014 7:10 am

Thanks

**Posts:** 45 · by **Hani** » Wed Mar 05, 2014 9:33 am

Here are a few affirmations you can choose from to repeat daily, or you can say over and over again whenever you feel in that negative state of mind and body:

I choose to forgive myself one day at a time until it’s complete.

I choose to gently release the grip of anger and rage from my body.

I choose to trade my anger and rage for understanding and compassion.

I choose to forgive others as I forgive myself: with ease, sincerity and loving compassion.

I choose to forgive myself so that I can have inner peace again.

I choose to bless and release my entire past.

I choose to be a lovable and loving person.

Today I bring compassion, kindness, and patience to every interaction . . . even with myself.

Say them with feeling, focusing in the moment. You may also say them at bedtime, as you lay there quiet, preparing to sleep; so you be relax and feel the words you say vibrating within your body.

Repeat them over and over until you feel a shift.

By the way, to some, affirmations may take a long time to work, if after a while you feel no change, you may want to then change the 'I' to a 'You', or you may want to look straight into your eyes through a mirror and repeat the affirmations.

Test and see what works best for you - should you decide to give this a shot.

Hani

**Posts:** 52 · by **pljames** » Wed Mar 05, 2014 12:28 pm

"I choose to forgive myself so that I can have inner peace again". To me this one wins me over. Paul

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