LittleMissScrewup wrote:
Hi, Leo
On the contrary, I am considering either taking time off work, or even quitting altogether, because quite frankly, I can't be there if my anger is that bad. I feel like I am not ready for a job at all because of it. My husband has a steady job, and I receive Social Security Income. It's probably better if I just stay home and become a stay-at-home wife while I recuperate.
Oh! Good Morning Little Miss,
Well, that sounds Good! Very Sensible Plan. You see, for many People it is Difficult to Work on their Anger Issues if the Stress in their Lives remains constant and steady, that is, Near Their Blow Up Point. Yes, we must Eventually Face the Music, but People Do Need some respite, some break in order to metaphorically Catch their Breath and Take Stock of their Lives.
Now back to my Idea of getting a few Good Anger Management Books, and reading them Religiously. I had looked at the selections offered by That Big On Line Retailer, and I am unfamiliar with a lot of them -- so many of the Books are new. I suppose a lot of hungry writers are jumping into Anger Management as some kind of a Gold Mine. But the majority of them might not be so good... considering that they are probably written by general-population generic authors picking out Anger Management as their new 'Market' and doing what they must find to be a lot of Drudge Homework on an impossibly short schedule in order to Pay the Rent. So, Read the Reviews... start with the Bad Reviews and work your way up. Its generally the Same People, or the Same SORT of People who write these reviews, so you get a good comparison between books. I myself like the "Anger Management" book by Peter Favaro, and you would like any of the books by Potter-Efron -- Potter-Efron has one book called "Rage" which deals very well with Extreme Anger, and with the Extremely Angry People who would read such a book, and they (I think the Potter-Efrons write as a couple) have one or two more books for 'ordinarily' Angry People'.
there are Pamphlet Size Books out there that cost nothing or next to nothing, and maybe such a book would be handy as a kind of an Overview, but with Anger Management, 'the Devil Is In The Details' -- The Authors need to be able to both present their Ideas, AND thoroughly explain those Ideas, and then Tell Stories about such Ideas... the Books you Read must be Complete and Well Thought Out Books. Anyway, you can't get any Good Anger Management Book for nothing. You Get what you Pay For.
and then it would probably be useful to read a Number of the Better Reviewed Books, to see a Number of Different Methods and Various Opinions and Other Viewpoints. This will Broaden your Knowledge and Perspective on Anger Management. You won't have to limit yourself to just one or two author's Point of Views.
Anyway, thank you for re-engaging so soon. that is very positive. Let us know how you are doing... keep us abreast of your evolving situation.
Oh! I just thought of something... something from History. One of the Greatest Literary Figures in the English Language was Samuel Johnson. He compiled the First Dictionary of the English Language, and was also famous for both fictional and non-fictional books (travel books), essays and Poems. But, in regards to his Personal Life, the modern opinion is that when he was Younger, he was quite 'Mad'... he could not trust his Impulses or his Intuition in regards to Things and How to Behave. But he had a Very Powerful Mind, and so he became the Quintessential Rational Man... well, as an Ideal... he continued all his Life to have 'problems' in society, but they were within tolerable limits, and thought of an merely 'quirks' of character. Now, I STILL do not know much about Asperger's Syndrome, but if you have some kind of Social - Cognitive disorder or impairment, then Samuel Johnson's example of Deliberately Structured Thinking might help you. For instance, a Man of Perfect Social Grace will walk into a Party, take one look around, and INSTANTLY KNOW how to Behave Well and be Charming. But a Man with Social Challenges but with a Good Mind, will walk into the Same Party, and do a Quick Mental Assessment and Evaluation -- who is there and what have I heard about these people? Are they Smiling? Smiling would mean Friendly. Are the people mingling, that is are the people in a state of disorder, divided up into various groupings. How loud are people speaking? If you were Invited, where is the Host? The Host would help introduce you around. If there is no host, then gravitate toward any acquaintance you have known for a while, friend or enemy, as you will likely be invited into their small sub-group just on the strength of the personal acquaintanceship. Notice how long people stay in their Sub-Groups, before they break away and Mingle, finding new Sub-groups to chat with.... etc. If IT DOES NOT COME Naturally, then one must be able to Analyze and Plan every move and every word one makes. I suppose that is why Johnson was such a great Writer, and Talker, as He put So Much Thought into virtually Everything. anyway, that was just a thought...
Again, good luck and keep us informed...