Okay, my post is gonna suck, but here goes, I noticed something in your posts.
Why do you say 'blah, blah, blah'? I'm curious, because I say very similiar things when I talk to my friend (well, when I used to) about upsetting things about myself. I felt self-indulgent, selfish, and that she probably didn't care for those things (even though she's always said she cares), well, this isn't really about me, I were just curious whether its the same for you? What I mean is, you make it sound as if you think you shouldn't talk about the things much?
I just want to say, you never have to worry about saying stuff on here, something I found out, you've been through an awefull lot and I think you should feel its okay to talk about them as much as you need to.
As for the cutting, I've never become a major cutter myself, maybe its because my past isn't anywhere near as traumatic, I don't know. But I dipped into it for the very same reasons. I'm sorry to say I don't really know how to help, I think I got out of it because things have never really been that bad for me.
I feel as if you're most certainly NOT a sham, it takes alot in a person who is going through hell (by the sounds of it) to still be there for friends, to help them even though you're having thoughts of wanting to suicide, I respect that, alot.
Why do you feel as if you're not grown up? I haven't seen anything to indicate otherwise.
I'm no expert, and I know its been said before, but I think the key to your problem is your thinking style, you need to not blame yourself for things (heck, why not blame others?
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If we take a fictional example, person A blames themselves for 5 incidents with 5 different people, surely its simply plain unlikely that at least half of these mistakes aren't the other people's faults?). Okay, fair enough, I don't really know enough to know what you perceive to be your 'failures', I really shouldn't be posting here, I'm not being very helpfull, sorry. I think it might help if you write down the good things you do each day (possibly as you do them if you're like me and brush them off later), and then, when you think about one of your 'failures', you can read them and say to yourself 'hey, I only made one mistake (or however many, again, I don't know what your 'mistakes' are) in a day in which I did so many great things, go me!'.
Okay, I'll keep quiet now, I should really be keeping quiet for the people who know their stuff to help
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P.S Good luck with everything
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