People constantly comparing people

djenner wrote:Being in touch with those people turned me into a person always comparing things, personal features, talents,....
What's wrong with people comparing others in terms of good, better, best? Is it normal it has an impact on your confidence?

Comparison is a normal tool we use to make quick, mostly efficient judgments. It is how you intend to use those judgments that ends up being a problem. For instance, if you had to choose between one man and another, which is stronger, you would be making a comparison. If the reason for this judgment is to determine who will row the boat that will take you to safety, then comparison as a trait of mankind is a useful tool to help one survive. The same holds true for choosing a woman to mate with. We compare one against another to choose which one we think will be the best protector, nurturer, etc.

It is normal, it does have an impact on confidence and it is something we all should be careful of since making judgments, making comparisons has an unhealthy aspect as well. Comparisons can bring about envy, jealousy, etc. yet as you can see from the examples in my first paragraph, as a trait, making comparisons is an important tool we use.

Thanks, Richard. Of course we all compare, it's just when we start to over-compare that there's a problem or when you have to judge artists and say artist A is better than artist B because it's about personal taste.
That's why we should seperate rational from non-rational judgements.
I know a history teacher thinking his subject is very important and way more important than religion, he's saying that to his fourteen year old students knowing some of them think about it differently. Why would history be more important, just because you chose to be a history teacher and got fascinated with it?

It's the opposite of celebrating the uniqueness that we all bring to the party. This is much more fun

djenner wrote:I found out that I have been hanging out with people constantly comparing people.
When they see a hot man in the streets, they say: he's better looking than you.
When they see a piece of art I've made, they say: I've seen better than this, my brother is a better painter
When I tell them I like singer A, they say: he doesn't have a voice like singer B

Being in touch with those people turned me into a person always comparing things, personal features, talents,....
What's wrong with people comparing others in terms of good, better, best? Is it normal it has an impact on your confidence?

Comparison is what people use to judge and rank each other. I never believe in judging someone unless its for a good cause. For e.g. I will usually judge someone's studies and feel envious. I will then work hard and try to do better than him. From what i hear from you , they seem to be pushing other people down for the sole reason "FUN". They think that it is fun to joke around at the expense of others

I was a student once , truth be told i still am a student. I have received such treatments before and i know that it is very hurting and demoralizing. This is why you have to take such comment hurled your way with a pinch of salt.

As to why you are starting to compare with others, the explanation is pretty simple. You learn from your surroundings and since they are always around you , you start learning their habits. It will definately have an impact on your confidence. This is because one day you will realize that whatever you are saying is actually not true. You are doing this so that you can feel better. You feel self inferior and that is why you are calling your friends to back your argument up. Once your friend is gone , there goes your "Self Confidence"

Hope this answered your question

Separate from those people they are insulting you. Find some new friends

There is a chinese saying,

jìn mò zhě hēi: literally “proximity to ink makes you black”. The full idiom is jìn zhū zhě chì, jìn mò zhě hēi (what’s next to vermillion turns red, what’s next to ink turns black). It is a metaphor for being around good people having a good influence, and being around bad people having a bad influences.

Apologies for the chinese, but I honestly think this is most appropriate. It might be wise to find new friends.

Well in this world are many diferent people and seems that this friends of yours are not so good ,i am not say leaving them but theyr behaviour affect you .Switch to new friends and maybe you will see other opinions and behaviour

Its a common thing. Don't take it serious.