Sudden anger

VWKL wrote:The last few weeks I find myself to be very irritable, which then sparks off sudden bouts of anger.
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I've gone through some really distressing and worrying times with my family, but this was 2 years ago or longer, and I don't think it's this.

Significant that you mention it, though. You may be what Pete Walker calls a Fight type http://www.pete-walker.com/fourFs_Traum ... exPTSD.htm in response to an emotional flashback you haven't identified.

Pete Walker wrote:Because most emotional flashbacks do not have a visual or memory component to them, the triggered individual rarely realizes that she is re-experiencing a traumatic time from childhood. Psychoeducation is therefore a fundamental first step in the process of helping clients understand and manage their flashbacks. Most of my clients experience noticeable relief when I explain PTSD to them. The diagnosis seems to reverberate deeply with their intuitive understanding of their suffering. When they understand that their sense of overwhelm initially arose as an instinctual response to truly traumatic circumstances, they begin to shed the awful belief that they are crazy, hopelessly oversensitive, and/or incurably defective.
~ http://www.pete-walker.com/flashbackManagement.htm

VWKL wrote: If anyone could shed some light as to what may cause this

Age.

Not necessarily chronological age, but cognitive age. There are plenty of studies, starting with Piaget, that demonstrate how it is normal to go through different phases of cognitive development. If you do not mind me asking, how old are you, chronologically?

Hi !

If everything is fine and you don't know what is stressing you, you should probably make a STOP, sit down and Start to evaluate if you are in your True Life Path

Evaluate if you really have an Important DREAM or Goal. And if your daily activities are approaching you toward your Dream Life.

Another thing that can help you (if is not done), is to simply FORGIVE EVERYONE who has hurt you... not because they deserve it, but because you deserve emotional Freedom.

Must of the Time, when we experience stress, is when we don't feel in CONTROL of something or we have something pending... so be detached to all the things around you, Life is too short and we don't have time to waste living a life tolerated, rather than a passionate Life.

Look at your problem as something SMALL, and Believe you are ABLE to Solve it

I hope I helped you !

Dear VWKL,

I think Richard has this one right... that we need to know your age, your sex. This is because your Extreme Irritability came on suddenly, and as you say, it is surprisingly out of proportion. Even you noticed it. Chronically Angry People tend to justify their Anger... they think they have good reasons for flipping out, or at least good reasons to start them flipping out, though they may complain of going too far. But you clearly realize that you are being tied in knots by almost insignificant things. what All of That seems to indicate is some sudden Physical Change... hormones kicking in, or kicking out. It seems like a stretch to suppose that Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome could be the cause. After all, you have gone years without a problem, and besides, a lot of the Fad Popular Psychologists who seem to be in the Business of Writing Best Sellers and packing Weekend Seminars, well, to them it might be too easy for the them to say "You suffered from Abuse that was so horrible that you repressed your memory of it". that is easy to say, and very difficult to deny. you could tell people that their parents were Satanists and held Black Sabbath Blood Rituals in the basement, but that you don't remember because it was just too too too horrible. But really, just think about your Childhood... what you do remember. there were good things and bad things. But are there any serious gaps? Probably not. You remember growing up as a continuously maturing mostly happy kid. Nothing happened to alter your basic personality? Then nothing happened. Now, if you remember being a very happy Little Kid, and then you have a gap of years that you have no memory of, but then when you do have memories, it was of being suspicious and hateful, a bully or a coward... well, then we might suspect Repressed Memories.... but as a rule, for the most part, Popular Psychologists who live by book royalties and packing weekend seminar dates, well, then can be safely disregarded.

But, yes, you have a very real problem and it is good that you are focusing on it. This is the kind of thing that could get you trouble at Work or with your Family. it happened so suddenly, and without any kind of explanation or reason, that I actually recommend something I recommend very rarely, and that is to go to a regular Doctor, and tell Him or Her your problem. You will get a full work-up and perhaps given a recommendation to a Psychiatrist who, if your problem is with hormonal balance, could prescribe something to return you to your good old blessed Love-Life Self.

Good Luck. My prayers are with you.

Hello VWKL,
As you stated, when you get frustrated at something you normally would not it is usually from unresolved issues. This can be directly or indirectly from past, present, or future issues. Your current stress, anxiety, anger, etc can stem from so many different areas. I will talk about some possible scenarios, so you can dig a little dipper yourself. There is no one that will no more of what is going on than you. I would suggest researching, writing in a journal, and open discussions with someone once you have a better idea. Even re-post additional questions, concerns, or thoughts. Either way take some time to really think about the points below and apply them to see if it is possible. If not, maybe it will at least lead you in the direction of resolving your issue.

Past
- Directly thinking about past problems is normally obvious but if you are spending ANY time in the past then there are probably unresolved issues
- If you are not spending time thinking about the past then it may or may not be related to unsolved issues. It could be a trigger in the present. A trigger is something you see, hear, feel, smell, or even taste that trigger a feeling you had in the past. It is known as memory association.

Present
- You may be feeling as though it is time for a change and not realize it. It could be a change in every aspect of your life or a specific area such as career, finance, family, spiritual (serenity), religion, relationship, or personal.
- If you are not getting up excited (not necessarily physically, but definitely mentally) ready go to work, have fun then it is time to evaluate your life to see if you are doing what you REALLY want or it may be sign that you have too much going on. Do not dismiss this one easily, we pride our self (usually wrong) in being able to handle anything and everything, or saying I know my limits, but don't realize when we may be over our head a little or a lot.

Future
- When it comes to find out why the future have similar point as the past and present
1. Are you moving in the right direction
2. Are you over your head
3. Is something coming up that is concerning
4. Be mindful (past, present, and future) memory association, because that deals with emotions and not thoughts

Thank you everyone for your help. It has really given me some things to think about. I'm a 21 year old female, so maybe it is quite possibly hormones acting up and causing it. I'll keep an eye on it and if I notice it gets any worse then I'll definitely consider seeing someone about it as I've never considered myself an angry or violent person and would hate to live my life like this. Thanks again!

VWKL wrote:Thank you everyone for your help. It has really given me some things to think about. I'm a 21 year old female, so maybe it is quite possibly hormones acting up and causing it. I'll keep an eye on it and if I notice it gets any worse then I'll definitely consider seeing someone about it as I've never considered myself an angry or violent person and would hate to live my life like this. Thanks again!

Hi VWKL,

Thanks for getting back to us, but NO! No one was expecting you to say your were a 21 year old female.

Nothing happens at 21 for females. you won't see any big change, from what happened to you during adolescence, until you reach menopause. The only thing I know about, and I AM NOT A DOCTOR, that could happen to a young woman at your age is 'Young Adult Onset Schizophrenia', but since you are not hearing voices and interacting with people who aren't really there, well, that does not seem to be your problem. HOWEVER... Schizophrenia is tricky. It is not very easy to tell whether 'People' you see and talk to are 'real' or 'delusional'... they all seem quite the same. So what a lot of Schizophrenics have learned to do is to do Probability Testing on their Social Encounters. For instance, do you engage with people in your home? Well, did they knock on the door and did you let them in? Are you engaging with people on the job? Okay, why do they always come to your desk? where is their desk? when you are a Young Adult, and things seem to be happening strangely, well, until you know FOR SURE that you are not delusional and schizophrenic, then it is good to do some serious REALITY CHECKING on nearly everything that happens to you. the General Rule is that Crazy People do not know they are Crazy, but that is just to simplistic... a smart and discerning Crazy Person can catch the Delusions in the Midst of their Tricks. Indeed, there have been Functional Schizophrenics just like functional drug addicts or functional alcoholics. They learn what lines not to cross and they don't cross them. A functioning Schizophrenic learns who the Delusional People are and take care to not engage them when anybody else is in the room They learn to not take heed of any Delusional Gossip. They come across acting like anybody else who may have annoying and bothersome friends... and who doesn't?


But, yes, with you, Miss VWKL, I think we are still open ended. We are not done yet. I will see what I can think of, but for now... please, just stay with us until somebody here gets some insight.

VWKL wrote:The last few weeks I find myself to be very irritable, which then sparks off sudden bouts of anger. The simplest things that shouldn't annoy me, or should barely annoy me, make me so angry that I want to throw things and break things.

For instance, today I was drying my hair and I was in a hurry. My hair was particularly tuggy and taking a while to dry, and I got so frustrated with it that I threw my brush hard enough to break it. Even simple things like my phone freezing, or autocorrect changing a word I don't want changed makes me curse or gives me an urge to throw my phone or again, break something.

I have no reason to be feeling stressed. I exercise regularly as I know this can help my mood, and really don't know why I should be feeling like this for what seems like either no reason at all, or a simple, trivial inconvenience. It's never normally at people, it's usually just stupid things like what I have mentioned.

I've gone through some really distressing and worrying times with my family, but this was 2 years ago or longer, and I don't think it's this. If anyone could shed some light as to what may cause this or if they feel the same way, then please let me know. Thanks

How often do you exercise?

McCain