whats wrong with me? is this really the end or is it anxiety

**Posts:** 13 · by **need-to-know** » Tue Apr 11, 2017 1:18 am

m having so much trouble and i need help.so i have been having alot of trouble because i cant figure out what is wrong with me. so i have been dating my girlfriend for 10 months now and about a month ago i started having all of these doubts such as "do i still love her?" "am i in love?" "why am i having these doubts?" "am i too young?" and for the past month ive been going absolutely crazy. mostly because im worried about being too young and all of these doubts scare me so much because i know i love her but for some reason im having doubts and i dont know if im falling out of love or i dont know if this is anxiety.ive had a bunch of panic attacks. some days i have good days and it seems like everything is back to normal and i love those times so much. but sure enough a day or a few days later i will go right back to the doubts. i have so many discussions with her about it and shes talking with me and being helpful all she can and i dont think this is fair to her.i feel like i love her so much but there is just some barrier that is taking over me and now when we go to hang out i feel kind of a guilty feeling and like a weird feeling because of these thoughts.the days that i have good days, i feel completely comfortable with her and i enjoy the time so much. all i can do is worry worry worry and im so sick of it and i just want all this worrying to end and go back to my happy self. ive had a problem before but im not sure what that was either.it felt like depression but i never got it checked and i guess it got cleared up but im not so sure. shes so beautiful and ill do anything to keep her.i just want these doubts to go away. it hurts me and i know that it hurts her to go through this. she also has anxiety and i never realized what she had to go through until it was me who was crying and sad all the time.some days i dont want to do anything and some days i have a just okay day. when i look at something shes given me i feel guilty because it reminds me of all the doubts and i just want us to last forever and i need answers so someone please help !!

**Posts:** 42 · by **popcorn123** » Sat Jun 10, 2017 12:10 pm

Hi need-to-know,

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling with doubts about your relationship. I may not be able to provide the advice or support you need but there are actually quite a few others who have been/are going through something similar to yourself. Let me link their threads below.

http://www.uncommonforum.com/viewtopic.php?t=58690
http://www.uncommonforum.com/viewtopic.php?t=104930
http://www.uncommonforum.com/viewtopic.php?t=105003

All of these people have slightly different situations, but the theme is the same. They all have some sort of relationship anxiety. I hope that reading about what they have said can help you, and you may even be able to contact some of them. There are more on this forum, but I can only link three...

From what you have written it sounds like you really care about your girlfriend, she is supportive of you and she is a genuinely nice person who you enjoy spending time with. I would say for those reasons she is someone worth keeping hold of. Don’t let those doubtful words echo in your mind. Instead, enjoy your time with her.

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Sat Jun 10, 2017 12:36 pm

need-to-know wrote: i just want these doubts to go away.

How do we go about resolving our doubts? They don't go away on their own. For instance, if you were not certain where you wanted to live or you had doubts about going to school or buying a home, how would you resolve such doubts?

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