Road Rage

**Posts:** 3 · by **paneri** » Wed Aug 02, 2006 9:25 pm

I've looked through the boards all day today and found no mention of road rage issues in the anger management forums. I'm not sure about others here, but this seems to be my biggest weak spot. Sometimes I can control it, but most times it gets the best of me.

Yesterday was a bad day for me. This guy cuts me off three different times in traffic. I let it go the first two times, but after the third I just couldn't do it anymore. I swerve around him to give him a look, he of course quickly looks busy, and never looks at me. I then look back at the road, and almost run into someone. Luckily I didn't, but I got stuck in the lane and ended up stuck at a light as well. The a%$hole drives on.

This is a smaller area, and I'm sure I'll see him again soon. I can't stop thinking of revenge. I'm so angry. I wanted to follow him home last night.I ended up seeing him a few cars up ahead of me later last night. Man I wanted his a$%!!!!!!! I turned and went home instead.

I know I did the right thing by going home, but I still can't get it out of my head. All day I've been miserable. I'm so angry over this. I freakin hate people so much!!!!! I don't get the count to ten crap! None of the stupid exercises I've read here would help me in traffic. You can't just leave in a hostile situation in traffic. Your stuck there smoldering.

Oh well. I have to drive home now. I hope I don't see that guy tonite.

**Posts:** 131 · by **Ingridave2** » Wed Aug 02, 2006 9:29 pm

You're right paneri...people haven't mentioned this topic and I am just as surprised. My father is a road rage person. He doesn't take actions but he is miserable to listen to as a passenger. When he was driving, he was always cursing and swearing at the other driveers and that made him impatient with us, his children if we played too loudly. We learned to shut up and be quiet in the car.

My father is not happy unless he is the only person on the road.

**Posts:** 3277 · by **good spirit** » Wed Aug 02, 2006 9:30 pm

Hey if you do, be cool. Be the bigger person. That's worth a lot!

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**Posts:** 3819 · by **Smurfetta** » Wed Aug 02, 2006 10:38 pm

I had some idiot tail-gating me a couple of days ago at 70mph-take into account I had witnessed him interchanging lanes with no indication behind me for a while :roll:

I think`what a twat`and indicate left into the middle lane....idiot in meantime swerves into middle lane .accelerates and starts to overtake me on the inside just as I am pulling in :shock:

I swerve into outside lane again,decellerate and pull in behind him in middle lane.Idiot then accelerates into outside lane and tail-gates some other poor innocent.I resist urge to mouth obcenities and display rude hand gesture cos...

I am better than that...I do not wish to die and take other innocents with me cos of some egotistical stranger.Rise above his recklessness and forget it,its not worth the possible consequences

**Posts:** 3 · by **paneri** » Thu Aug 03, 2006 12:49 pm

Well its morning, two (somewhat) days later and I still can't get it out of my mind. I've come to the conclusion that something else is eating at me. I don't know what. I would still love to get back at the guy, but I know bad things will ensue.

Driving lately just sucks. I used to love it. It was one of the great pleasures in my life, but now, I just hate it. I'm so sick of people. I try very hard to be courteus (sp?) to others (don't always pull it off) but it seems people are so freakin rude now a days.

My big problem is road rage. I know this. I have no idea how to curtail it. All the exercises I've read so far just don't apply to driving. You still have to deal with the a#$ in front or behind you. They're not going away. Being the bigger man, sometimes I cannot be. People suck!!

**Posts:** 12 · by **osochill** » Sat Aug 05, 2006 3:56 am

Dear Paneri:
I can only speak for myself and say that my anger issues have encompassed many road rage episodes. Unfortunately, some have ended up in me beating up on some other angry person.
However, one almost got me and two of my friends killed when the person who cut us of, and we subsequently followed him. The man we were following then pulled out a gun and ...Let's just say I am now so thankful nothing really tragic happened.

You know, its just a crazy world and those of us that have anger issues need to identify our anger triggers. Now my wife drives when she and my children are with us. It has helped lower the number of road rage episodes for me tenfold. I realize that I get furious any time I am driving with any one I care about and some fool is driving like a maniac. My protective side comes out in full force and I want the fool to realize his carelessness. I elect myself judge jury and executioner in a matter of seconds and become tunnel visioned. so now, to avoid this drama my wife drives us around.
Paneri, try to identify what is triggering you into your road rage and maybe you can come up with ways around it.

**Posts:** 3277 · by **good spirit** » Sat Aug 05, 2006 4:42 am

And also watch what you are saying to yourself when this happens. If the person is driving in a way that is truly putting others on road at risk then pull over to the side and use your cell phone to report them to the police(this could save a life). But if they are just being a jerk, then just let them. And realize that people who act like that don't get away with it for very long I promise. Eventually someone will put them in their place, or they get arrested. So know that they WILL get theirs without you even having to do anything.

Peace.

**Posts:** 6 · by **ripley** » Fri Aug 25, 2006 9:42 pm

Look you lot, who is suffering here YOU! The idiots on the road are just that. As soon as you see an idiot driver say to yourselves 'Oh there`s an idiot' and stay away from them. Look at what you do to yourselves. Do you like feeling so bad, for so long. Remember it`s not them doing this to you, it`s up to you prevent YOU from these bad feelings. YOU have the power to prevent the pain + anguish you get on the roads. If you continue getting angry + carry on this way, you must look at what you are getting from the excitment. You may be enjoying it at some level.

**Posts:** 56 · by **BlueSky123** » Wed Aug 30, 2006 1:08 pm

I dont give a chips i drive at my own justified speed limit.
when some one is drivin too close behind me, and makes verbal agression at me, I just drive more slowly, And still drivin A rightfull speed limit.

8) :lol:

**Posts:** 3 · by **paneri** » Thu Sep 07, 2006 5:04 pm

Bluesky123 you suck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Your probably the a$@ we're all stuck behind while you do exactly the speed limit or less! Who died and left you the road sheriff of the planet? I can't stand people like you! You feel that just because somebody wants to go faster, it's your job to slow things down and antagonize the driver behind you. Slow down all you want. I'll just park my truck's bumper right in the back of your head. You can be as uncomfortable as you make me!

Drive on that A$$!!

**Posts:** 394 · by **Leix** » Thu Sep 07, 2006 6:27 pm

So it`s not just on the road where your anger is appearing out of control then? :roll:

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