confusion

**Posts:** 16 · by **kavya shrivastava** » Fri Mar 18, 2016 6:51 pm

hello everyone.. .. i hope everyone is doing good
i am a girl of 16 and i have a strong feeling of attraction for my brother (cousin)
as kids we used to meet often abd had a lot of fun and we have always been close to each other
and now when i am meeting him after 4 years, i feel something different for him... ...
i want to tell this to him but i fear that it might destroy our friendship
at the same time i don't want to be dishonest with him on anyway ... ...
many times i feel his inclination too but may be because of family issues he would never say this and neither would i dare.. ...
i don't know what to do!
i am confused!
i am not sure if a relationship like this would be right in a family like ours!!!
please help!!!!!!!!!!!

**Posts:** 9885 · by **Candid** » Fri Mar 18, 2016 8:42 pm

I say keep it to yourself. You'll probably be attracted to all sorts of people in the next few years, and you won't want the embarrassment of family knowing about this. Just enjoy his company for now.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Sat Mar 19, 2016 11:26 am

when we don't know what to do, then it really matters little to us what we do.

**Posts:** 53 · by **Kiruba Murugesh** » Sat Mar 19, 2016 5:06 pm

Its a infactuation. In adolescent age, girls are easily attracted by boys. Concentrate more on your studies.

**Posts:** 263 · by **handheart** » Sun Mar 20, 2016 7:49 am

Well its a family memebr and you know that a relation its not easy accepted by families and god dont like also but its your choice to risk or not i dont judge nobody in life .If you meet new boys and relation with them maybe you will feel atracted by one .I was in the same situation when i was thiking that i love only a girl but after i spend a while with another i start to feel sentiments from her

**Posts:** 16 · by **kavya shrivastava** » Tue Mar 22, 2016 3:49 pm

thank you all for your suggestions... ... but the more i spend time with him the more i feel about him.. ... so should i stay away from him?
how can i erase my feelings for him???

**Posts:** 8 · by **weiming23** » Tue Mar 22, 2016 4:17 pm

Hi, hello Mrs Kayva Shrivastava. According to my experience. I also had my cousin that i really attracted to her. We're enjoying each others when we meet.

What I would say, it's better for me to keep contact with her. But, you gotta let your cousin HAPPY with his/her own choice. Somehow, it's because we're all have something that we thought in mind that "it's belong to us". This kind of mind that we need to remove.

Don't erase your feeling towards him, accept and acknowledge it. Make him your best friends. Just treat him like a family or dating WITHOUT STATUS/LABEL. So you can enjoy it very wel without attachment of STATUS.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Tue Mar 22, 2016 5:47 pm

kavya shrivastava wrote:thank you all for your suggestions... ... but the more i spend time with him the more i feel about him.. ... so should i stay away from him?
how can i erase my feelings for him???

What's your gut instinct telling you?

**Posts:** 16 · by **kavya shrivastava** » Tue Mar 22, 2016 6:34 pm

julius, i don't know.. ..may be i have a strong desire to be in a different kind of relationship with him.. .. i am confused!
our family might not support this kind of relationship so may be i need to limit my thoughts.. ..

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Tue Mar 22, 2016 6:40 pm

Do what is right for you, this is the path of happiness

**Posts:** 16 · by **kavya shrivastava** » Tue Mar 22, 2016 6:49 pm

but i am a confused personality :p
I'll have to go a long way searching what is right.. ..
path of my happiness cannot part from my family's happiness

**Posts:** 16 · by **kavya shrivastava** » Tue Mar 22, 2016 6:50 pm

hi #weiming
may be i would enjoy being in a non-labeled relationship.. ..but would it be right? sometimes it's not just about enjoying.. .. because may be he's only an attraction but i love him a lot as a family member... ...

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Tue Mar 22, 2016 6:54 pm

Masturbation is a useful way of releasing sexual tension

**Posts:** 9885 · by **Candid** » Tue Mar 22, 2016 7:07 pm

lol Julius.

She is only 16
Only 16
Oh, but she loves him so
She is too young to fall in love
And you are old enough to know better

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Tue Mar 22, 2016 8:19 pm

I have 16 and 18 year old daughters, I tell them the same thing.

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