Okay.. I have fianlly decided to change and try to love myself for once in my life. All my life Ive been quite alone, because Ive never been too interested in people and if I am, it's because I will grow dependent on them... Right now I have had to take a break from my relationship with my boyfriend because I grew too dependant and envious and jealous of him, just like my previous (and first) relationship, and I am focusing in 'finding myself' and being more independent. But right right now, there is one thing that worries me and upsets me like nothing else- How I lived my past, that is, never partied nor made out nor had that much sex or had cool drug experiences (only having them now,kinda which is cool but... I wanted those cool high school stories but now it's impossible, I'm in my first year of college btw. And yes, I find makind out the coolest thing, idk if thats ok, i want to change it really, Ive always searched or hoped for someone to kiss me but because of my shyness never met anybody until my first partner, and have kissed 3 other ppl since then..) and knowing my boyfriend made out with LOTS of people during his teens, makes me incredibly envious and like, makes me see him as another person (maybe because he's not meeting my expectations?), I don't know, it really upsets me. And if he makes out with someone else, I want to make out too, to feel validation you know. I know he used to make out with his close friends and stuff and I find that so cool. I never did that because I never even did have close friends during high school... well I'm just rambling now
The thing is I talked about this with him today and he just said that I should accept my past (and who I am) so I stop suffering and regretting about this. The jealously I would feel if he made out with someone if we were dating is another issue, right now the envy I feel because I haven't made out with so much people as him (or the majority of ppl I know right now) is making me feel like I'm the lowest and lamest. Please help? If you didn't understand something or want more details just say so... Thanks for reading. I fing this issue very rare and specific for some reason..