i believe i crave appreciation and acceptance from other people.maybe it is due to my perfectionism i am a people pleaser. i am also hyper sensitive to criticism or insults. i have observed myself that at time i unconsciously try to be nice to people so that i can get very nice responese from them or i will behave in such a way that i would be saved from criticism or insults. two examples i will give here-
1.i went to meet my cousin sister.so i wanted her to greet me very nicely, talk to me , praise me etc. but i didnt't get that response so i felt disapponted.was i expecting too much ( perfectionism) here.
2.my therapist greeted me with a very nice smile and thank you last week . but today she didnt't do such things today although i talked to her in a very nice way. i felt disappointed and started thinking is she judging me.
so guys could you please tell me what i should do to stop such behaviour and feelings