I don't know if I am being unreasonable when I lose my temper, so I would like to give you an example of when it happens, so I can have a fresh perspective and understand whether I am genuinely the issue.
So, my partner plays football of a Sunday. I love that he plays every Sunday as he is part of a community and has developed some great friendships. He is an introvert, very shy and quiet, so for him to thrive and be part of something is great to see. I would never ask him to miss a game to 'spend time with me' or to 'give me his undivided attention' because his team means a lot to him.
I live 300 miles away from my family and in such a demanding job, I rarely get time to visit them. When I do, they like my partner to visit them as much as I do because they adore him and they class him as part of the family. On three occasions over the past couple of years, I have invited him to visit them with me when he has happened to have a football match. We always rearrange the visit so that he can play the match, or cut the weekend short so he can be back on the Sunday to play, meaning we only spend 1 night and 1 full day with my family. This has led to arguments before because he always says yes to visiting, then lets me down last minute. On this occasion, Easter is the weekend that I wish to visit my family. Some other relatives are also coming to stay so they can meet my partner and we can all be together and go for outings etc. My partner has a football match that weekend, so although he agreed to visit them with me, it has happened before where he agrees and then decides not to last minute so he can play his football match. I mentioned this to him earlier, by telling him that I don't want to be let down again and I can't necessarily trust that he won't, based on previous times. I lost my temper, very badly, which led to him being upset because I got in such a state by shouting and throwing things. I don't know if I am being unreasonable- am I?