it's_a_me wrote:Is humor the best way to change perspective/reframe mind on things after having gone through trauma? I try to make myself laugh at what I went through, but I feel like this is indignifying myself.
All in the mind wrote:I think there are at least 2 sides to this. One side to see the lighter side, find humour in what you have gone through. I think the humour needs to be mild however, so that you can relate to it. But does this cause you to suppress the negative emotions, only to be re-traumatised at some later stage?
The other side is to emotionally connect with what you have gone through, deal with each stage and come out the other side. Can you then see the funny side and genuinely laugh about it once you have created some distance on it?
Each person is different and at different stages of the trauma. The nature of the trauma can also affect you. You can only learn from experience. If you feel like humour is indignifying you then you are not ready for it or it's not your style of coping.
In my own view, identify your emotions first and deal with them in a way that moves you through the events.
gwen wrote:I must agree with All In The Mind. It certainly depends on what stage you are at and it doesn't seem that you are any way close to using humour to deal with your situation. There must be someone close or local organisations that can help you get a resolution? You would be surprised how much help is there when you look for it.