Angry on forums

Danacovert82 wrote:
You want to get me going. I know you do. I'm not playing your games. Lol.

Yes, it's hard for me to say what I want on forums. I don't know how to write what I want in a way that will make people understand me. So, for instance if I were to write a post about Joel Osteen, I would just say I like him, and he's my pastor. That was just a for instance. That's all I can say about Joel Osteen.

Does that make sense? I hope it does.

Hi Dan,

Oh, I am so glad that I WASN'T able to Push a Button, with simply talking about your, well, 'writing style'. So this tells us all that you are not Angry about Everything... that you pick your battle. That is Good. here in 'anger management' we know we have less work to do on your behalf.

so it is religion that mostly riles you up. well, that can be expected. At Victorian Dinner Parties, it was always recommended to keep Conversation away from Religion and Politics. people are mostly polite and agreeable on any other subject, but they tend to take Religion and Politics to Heart... that they take it personally. For instance, if the person posting a Religious Opinion received comments critical of that Opinion, well, he assume that the Critical Comments are attacking himself personally... when the Respondent may have simply been responding to the Ideas. One of the First Rules of Anger Management is to Not Take Things Personally. the Best Story Analogy I have heard which serves to explain this is of the too ways we treat a Tiger charging into a Village and snagging a beautiful young child and killing it and then dragging it back into the jungle, as opposed to a Person charging into the Village to do the Same Thing. With the Tiger, we treat it as an Act of Nature. We are said for the Child, but understand that Tigers do what Tigers do. Yet we are upset and almost deranged when a Human Being does the same thing. But why? There is no need to get excited and wild and crazy. Of course one should TREAT the Offending Person as he would treat a Tiger who tasted Human Blood and liked it... to kill it as soon as he could catch it... I mean 'him'. But WHY get excited and emotional about it? It does not help.


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Leo, did you read the other post I posted, and I said people are basically calling me a liar. And I've been getting riled up about it. And one member wants me to go away from the forums here, and go to a church and ask people if Jesus would want a drama queen. So, I'm not going to stay here after today.

Danacovert82 wrote:Leo, did you read the other post I posted, and I said people are basically calling me a liar. And I've been getting riled up about it. And one member wants me to go away from the forums here, and go to a church and ask people if Jesus would want a drama queen. So, I'm not going to stay here after today.

Dan,

Are you sure?

I can't believe anybody from This Forum is chasing you away.

Certainly NOT for being angry.... for, after all, that is what we are here for.

and you DO have an anger problem, but the good thing is that I do not see it as very severe, but you give us enough room to make for Improvement. We might have been able to help.

Please consider staying.

Leo Volont wrote:Are you sure?

I can't believe anybody from This Forum is chasing you away.

Indeed. And I'll bet he means me.

There's a gazillion (and counting) posts indicating Danacovert82 misinterprets pretty much everything that's said to him in a negative light. I extrapolate from how people are here to how they are IRL relationships, so naturally the guy's going through hell.

For the record, I've never wanted anyone to leave our fabulous forum. I'm capable of choosing whose posts I read and respond to, just like everyone else does.

Really!

But you are always so sweet and nice and helpful.

As you know, Leo, I'm back. But, i would like to continue doing our email anger management. We can say more in emails than here.

Danacovert82 wrote:As you know, Leo, I'm back. But, i would like to continue doing our email anger management. We can say more in emails than here.

What!?

Without Candid's invaluable Insights into Love, Life, and Community? I'm afraid we will go so astray without her considered and objective viewpoints on all those obvious points that always seem to escape the attention of everybody else.

Are you sure, my friend?

Leo is using irony, too, Dana. You might need to look that up. So much more genteel than calling him a liar!

Leo, Candid, and everyone else:

I've said it in the light lounge in my bye bye thread that I feel I'm going to have to leave, because of my anger, and bossiness. I am not going to change. I've realized that if a person comes to this forum, they come for help AND ADVICE!!!!!! Not to be a "know it all" type, as I am thinking.

I know Candid you said you guys could take me being angry and bossy, but doesn't it get old after two or three threads to read repeated behavior? I say, yes it does get annoying after a while. I know Leo in my emails to you I said I've decided to stay. I never can make up my mind. I doubt this is the last time I'll make this choice. But, I've gotta do it. I appreciate the help not only you, but everyone has given me. I'm a bull in a china shop. If I stay, I'll just keep up my anger forever. It's hard for me to change my ways. But I can and will do it. Just not here.

Danacovert82 wrote:Leo, Candid, and everyone else:

I've said it in the light lounge in my bye bye thread that I feel I'm going to have to leave, because of my anger, and bossiness. I am not going to change. I've realized that if a person comes to this forum, they come for help AND ADVICE!!!!!! Not to be a "know it all" type, as I am thinking.

I know Candid you said you guys could take me being angry and bossy, but doesn't it get old after two or three threads to read repeated behavior? I say, yes it does get annoying after a while. I know Leo in my emails to you I said I've decided to stay. I never can make up my mind. I doubt this is the last time I'll make this choice. But, I've gotta do it. I appreciate the help not only you, but everyone has given me. I'm a bull in a china shop. If I stay, I'll just keep up my anger forever. It's hard for me to change my ways. But I can and will do it. Just not here.

Wow!

He wrote to me and said that he wrote to the Forum Managers and Asked to be Banned.

he wanted to NOT have the choice of writing in.

After such a Very Little Time of dealing with his Anger, he concluded he was Hopeless.

Maybe it is my fault. I THOUGHT I had told him that successfully working on and eliminating Life Long Anger Habits would take more than a few Weeks.

He can read and write and so how Low could his IQ actually be? But I guess, it was low Enough. You try and help some people... but their ability to Discern Reality out of their Perceptions, well, it all must be 'iffy' to them... whatever they see and hear... or whatever you tell them... there is No Knowing how they will understand it.

I tried. I apologize to all of you others who also Tried, and whom I might have criticized. You were obviously paying more attention to the Fundamentals of This Guy than I was. Well, 'Live and Learn'... I'll try not to make that mistake again. We can only help people who have some minimal 'compass' on Reality and who have a passable ability to know what we MEAN by what we SAY... given that our language is not too severely muddled up...

I think forums are good to be angry and be able to tell what you think. I am also angry at some people at forums. But having a nickname which I want to have good reputation, I try to talk closer to the way I would talk in real.

But in one dating site forum, there were full of people telling bs for example about russian politics, and they did not have a prove to back their statements when I ask. So I just was telling what I think and yea, some hurt them. But from the history we know what russia had done to people and it does not look like wanting to change. Like how germany or other modern countries changed from being evil to to being normal and even helping.

I am considering even to create a nickname just to be anonimous and do not build good reputation on it, but be able to tell my opinion without being afraid. And I believe there will be some people who will respect my opinion even if it hurts other people.

sometime i feel like you too

I am sure it is a common problem of the most part of modern people) I am sure it is one of the ways to improve their self-importance or one of the methods for stress escape. I don' think that it is an awful thing

Dalie wrote:I am sure it is a common problem of the most part of modern people) I am sure it is one of the ways to improve their self-importance or one of the methods for stress escape. I don' think that it is an awful thing

Dear Dalie,

Somebody writes in who fairly well describes their behavior as inappropriately angry, and you, in effect, tell them that they shouldn't worry about it ... that it doesn't seem so awful to you.

Honestly!?

Here at the Uncommon Knowledge Anger Management Forum we have a tradition of at least TRYING to help people cope with their Anger Problems... that is, to "Manage" their Anger. It would be so kind of you to join in with our efforts.

and regarding your comment that you do not think it such a bad thing to get angry on Forums, well, do you understand what goes on behind the scenes of these Forums? ... there are things that go on that ordinary Members NEVER hear about? And ONE of those things is that people who display inappropriate behavior, more than a few times, are Banned for Life. All the Ordinary Members are left with the impression that "So-n-So"... that 'really annoying guy', simply stopped writing in. No, he was Banned.

The Person writing to us obviously does not want to be Banned from Forums (any more) and is Trying his Level Best to Do Something About It. and telling him it doesn't seem like a problem that any of us here would worry about, well, is THAT the kind of help we want to provide here at the Uncommon Knowledge Anger Management Forum?