I hate everyone

Grow Up.

You posted this same thread yesterday. You are a brand new know nothing private in the military. You have no experience with what it actually means to be a solider yet. You have no idea what it means to be in the infantry. You were a civilian less than a year ago. Yesterday I responded and gave you solid advice. Go seek out some NCO's and learn some leadership in life, focus on improving your self-esteem. You have the choice to benefit from the army or you can choose to be a dud if you like.

From Yesterday:

It sounds more likely that you just have low self-esteem and the way you have decided to compensate is by turning that low self-esteem into anger, augmented by an unrealistic view of what it is like to be enlisted in the army.

This comes across as unattractive to women and/or in certain situations. And it sounds like you were a civilian until recently, so the idea all civilians now piss you off is just another offshoot of this low self-esteem/anger cocktail. It doesn't make you a psychopath. It is actually quite normal for guys with low self-esteem that join the military to feel a boost. For some guys it can be like joining a gang. They feel like it gives them purpose so it becomes somewhat empowering which can be a good thing, but also can have a bad side. The "changing a lot" is an offshoot of this new found identity. It doesn't make you a psychopath.

You need to work on your low self-esteem. The good thing about the army is it is a good place. Find a few NCO's you think are squared away and try to model your behavior after them. Talk with them, see if you can get at least one or two that are willing to help build you up.

Dylangarrett72 wrote:I cant do it anymore. Civilians piss me off to the point to where i want to beat the sh** out of them.but the worst is women. I cant even be around women without them pissing me off to the point where i want to kill them. They all act like theyre too good for me so they dont talk to me or if they do theyre nasty. Even the ones who are willing to talk to me wont hang out with me. They even sometimes act like theyre intrested sometimes but then when i mention hanging out they ignore me or dodge the question.it just pisses me off to no end. i feel like i just want to grab my m4 and kill them all it pisses me off so much. I barely have any friends , most of them i dont see because i met them at osut which is only a few , and ive met one or two at jump school. This why i hate being off post because i get see everyone else be happy and have fun with theyre friends or girlfriend while i get to sit there by myself all alone. What the **** did i ever do ? Why does almost everyone hate me, atleast being in the army is a blessing, the infantry is the coolest job in the world imo. We get to train and play in the dirt and shoot things for a living. But most of the people i meet dont like me or pretend to be my friend when theyre around me but then talk alot of sh** about me. And theyre are a few who pretend to be my friend but just ignore me when i try to hit them up. Im giving up on humanity, and im almost to the point where im just a cold hearted demon. Thats what the worlds made me. Maybe people hate me so much because im kinda stupid ? Idk. Am i crazy or pyschopathic or is my anger somewhat justified. Im telling you theres a demon inside and im changing.alot.

Hi Dylan,
I was in the Army Myself. I started out in Field Artillery, serving with the 3rd Armored in Germany and then with the First Cav at Fort Hood. Then I became a Calibrator, but not before I got my Sergeant Stripes in the Combat Arms… one of my Proudest Moments. I am still thinking of being buried in my uniform…

Anyway, I DO agree with Richard’s advice to you. But to speak more plainly, perhaps, well, I think you Expect too much from girls and people in general. For instance, when People are nice and polite to you, you Blame Them for not being more nice and more polite when you Want to Push it All to another Level!? Honestly, is THAT really a reason to get Angry? You must Learn how Real Life Works. You Must expect people to Evaluate You on your accomplishments and on the Manner in Which you Conduct Yourself. Also, a great Car and a wonderful house or apartment seems to appeal to people. But, ‘Rome was not built in a day’. Besides, I can tell you that Girls… Women… HONESTLY… are Far More Trouble than they are Worth. Every time a Woman snubs you, you should drop to your knees and Thank God for your good fortune. All the Friends you now envy will, not too long from now, be saddled down with nagging hen-picking wives, while you still have the freedom to be a Total Soldier and a Real Guy. Yes, I found that the Army likes to Promote Married Men… the Army thinks them more stable and Mature…. But, looking back, I don’t think it was worth it to get married. My Life would have been better if I Had Stayed Single.

But Richard is right about Low Self Esteem. Yes, being a Solder was probably the best move you ever made, BUT, It Can’t Stop there… you need to take Night Classes at some Community College or do Other Stuff for your Professional Development. You need More Rank! Being in the Army is One Thing…. Being Successful in the Army is Another. You need to Rise above the Crowd. To Get a Friend, well, You NEED to be a Friend worth Having. With Women, you need to be the Best Guy They Have to Choose From.

Don’t be Angry. Just be Realistic. Could you be Anybody’s Best Friend… of all the people out there to choose from? Could you be any, well, desirable woman’s chosen mate… among all the guys out there that she can pick from? Well, frankly NO… if your only claim to fame is being an Private in the Infantry. After all, while it took a lot of hard work on your part to achieve that Goal, still, there are Thousands of other Privates in the Infantry that did the same thing, no? Ask yourself what makes you so special in your own estimation? Nothing, really, right?

Do some School. Maybe you will meet a nice woman in a class you go to… and meeting you in a class would be a recommendation for you in itself. And do Everything you can for your Professional Development. Be the Perfect Solder and get promoted before everyone else. Rank helps and with rank come More Money. It is a fact of life that people with More Money are better at making friends and getting girl friends.

But, MOSTLY, you need to STOP worrying about Friends and Women. What do Friends and Women have to do with your Career as a Soldier. Friends and Women are mostly just a Distraction… a Waste of Your Time and Energy.
You like being a Soldier!? Well, then, Be the Total Soldier! Dedicate yourself to it to the point where you simply Don’t Have the Time for Screwing Around with Buddies and Chicks.

The Person you should be angry with is Yourself, for getting your Priorities all Wrong. You should Thank God that you were not Successful at Wasting Time with Party Boys and Party Girls. Be a Professional! Concentrate on your Career… and your Education. You DO realize that even if you become a LIFER, well, they even Kick LIFERs out of the Army when they are still just relatively Young Men at 40. THEN what are they supposed to DO? People can typically live another 20 or 30 or More years past that. You need a College Degree. You need a LOT of Rank. Nobody wants to hire Anybody who spent 20 years in the Army and just got to E6 or maybe E7…. After all that Time, it is not considered as being very successful, right… not when you are competing in the Job Market with Retired Sergeant Majors and Master Sergeants, right?

So, Honestly, you have Bigger Fish to Fry, then the relatively trivial problems you have brought to us here. You need to stop worrying about such Little Things, and look at the Larger Issues in your Life… and let the Little Things Take Care of Themselves. Just look at your Friends who are good at making and keeping friends, and your Friends who are good at getting Girl Friends… do they seem to be Working Very Hard at it? No. For them it is Incidental. For YOU it has to be incidental too. Be a Good Man and a Good Solder and prepare for a Hard Future (the world is only going to get tougher) and Friends and Female Admirers will follow as of course… believe me. Just being the Best Me I can be, I don’t need to find friends and girls… I have to chase away and discourage all of the ones I don’t have enough time and energy for. Being the Best Man You Can be is Enough, and All else with Follow. Worry about the Big Stuff and all of the Little Stuff… what you are concerned about now… will, as I insist is true… take care of itself.

It seems to be a Paradox of Life that you get Plenty of what you don’t even look for, but if you try too hard to get something, well, it runs away from you. Focus on yourself, and you will, soon enough, have more friends and female admirers than you even want… and you will look back upon your present Concerns as those of a Crazy Man that you once thought you were in Some Crazy Dream. You will someday scratch your head and wonder how you ever were so silly as to think the way you do now.