Anger Help.

Hi Honeybee,

Welcome to the Forum. Yes, from what you explained of your History, you are NOT an Angry Person. After all, your Name is Honey Bee! In ordinary circumstances you are probably delightful. What is happening to you now is that you are being Stressed Out and effectively Attacked, with these demands that you be a Live-In 24 Hour a Day Nurse Caregiver for a Demented and Senile Old Man. I would not worry about those Diagnoses for Anxiety and Depression. The Doctors make such diagnoses so they can prescribe those Prozac-Family Antidepressants – those Pills have become a Gold Mine for every major Pharmaceutical Company and I’ve heard that the Doctors get a Kick Back – “Commissions” is probably what they call it. But you can’t Believe any Diagnosis where the Doctors are More Financially Interested in you Being Sick then in you Being Well. You look at the Data for Any Illness nowadays where the Pharmaceutical Companies are paying Commissions to doctors for prescribing their Drugs. If you believe the Data, then the World is becoming Sicker than it ever has been Before. I prefer to think that the Doctors have become corrupt and a few need to go to jail to be examples for all the others.

But about your Situation. Who is making you be a 24 Hour a Day Caregiver?

You ARE twenty years old. You are NOT a prisoner. Yes, you may THINK that you have no choice. If you indeed have no choice then you must learn to live with your lot. But, have you really thought about your Options? If you have gone to school and have all the required certificates, you could join your Nation’s Armed Forces and get out of the house and save up some money for University later on. I was able to join the Peace Corps back in my Day.

But, the Old Man IS old and if his diabetes is advanced, you could hope that the precarious state of his Mortality will soon liberate you from your oppressions. I would not advise actively doing anything that would aggravate his ill health, but I also would not be overly solicitous for him either. You might have to ask a Lawyer, but you should wonder about just how much responsibility you must take in making the Old Man’s Decisions for Himself. For instance, if he WANTS to eat something BAD, are you Legally obliged to actively stop him? If not, then let him eat himself to death.

In some Ancient Cultures, the Young People simply refused to be discomfited by the demands of caring for troublesome Old People. Up to a Point the Elders would be shown Great Respect, but when they would become more of a Burden than they seemed to be Worth they would simply be shunted aside – encouraged to go for a long cold walk out into the Night and Not Come Back. In Modern Times we have Nursing Homes which are a more Civilized and Humane Version of the Long Cold Walk In the Night from which there is No Return.

That this Old Man has become a burden on a 20 Year Old Woman first Starting Out on Her Life, well, it just shows that our Civilization has broken down. It Shouldn’t Work like That. Your Life simply Matters More. There is Hope in You. There is no possible Hope left in him. He had his Life. You should be allowed to have yours.