Workplace Bullying, Confidentiality leaks and Redundancy

Postby oaktree1 » Mon Nov 16, 2015 12:00 am

I am in need of a little advice.

I was made redundant at the start of this year, I have tried to do my own thing by the way of Freelancing and also searching for suitable jobs however for one reason or another this hasn’t worked out.

Now the months previously to me being made redundant I was the victim of bullying and mobbing at work which came out of the blue, being a company of gossip and little confidentiality even amongst bosses things quickly spiraled out of control and pretty much the whole company jumped on the bullying band wagon. Therefore I knew I was going to be made redundant once it was announced.This left me feeling devastated at the time.

I think much of the reason I have had problems trying to search for further work is my motivation, the bullying was hard to swallow and has also left me with depression which I have been battling with all year, Meditation a CBT course and natural remedies have helped although I have stayed away from anti depressants.

Now here is the difficult part that has hit me hard this week, it has only come to my attention that there maybe a few other scenario’s working against me.
About 3 months ago I signed on for redundancy benefits (JSA), the reason I didn’t do so any earlier was because I didn’t realize I was even entitled to it because I have a lot of money in savings. However I was informed by the DWP that in fact I was entitled and also to National Insurance contributions for my pension. So I started signing on, after all I was entitled to it.

After realizing whilst job hunting that a lot of red hot leads were suddenly going stone cold I decided to ask the DWP whether they contact anyone regarding my JSA and it turns out they contacted my previous company to verify my redundancy. Now this has rang alarm bells with me and it all makes sense as I had a few strange emails from ex colleagues around that time. As mentioned the company were bullying me, not the most confidential and turns out me being on JSA has spread like wildfire through the company and probably my city as my profession is small.

All this of course must be damaging my reputation and career which is incredibly unfair and breaches confidentiality as well as giving my self esteem and mental health another major hit. I don’t deserve this!

I need to repair my reputation, self esteem and motivation. I’m not sure whether to write and let me previous company know my views or whether I will be stoking the fire. After all they bullied me whilst there and now they wont even leave me alone since they made me redundant. I need to get out of this situation and move forward in life.

Thank You.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Nov 16, 2015 1:57 am

oaktree1 wrote: I need to get out of this situation and move forward in life.


Exactly.

There is only one path forward. Get a new job/career. This means stop focusing time and energy on your past.

It does not matter if they did or did not tell. It does not matter if your story has or has not "spread like wildfire". It doesn't matter if it is fair. Life is not always fair.

If you want to be healthy and move forward, wipe the past and move forward in finding a new job/career. Keep applying and change the way you apply. Instead of just submitting a resume, you may need to take a few people out to lunch.

Bottom line, be proactive not reactive. Right now you are wasting a lot of time and energy being reactive to your past. All of this reactive time/energy needs to be refocused on you future and being proactive.
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Postby KatherinnPalacio » Thu Dec 17, 2015 8:48 pm

Hi Oaktree1,

Good afternoon, how are you doing? It is time to move on and find your passion and purpose in life, which at the moment is not staying at your current job. I am not saying to quit all at once, but yes is time to leave the past behind, learn from it and come on top in 2016.

I recommend, as I recommend to everyone that is in the path of transforming their life, is to take personal growth to heart, because it is the only way to have the feeling of being tired of being sick and tired of being unhappy and unfulfilled in the one life that we have to live in. It will teach you how to transform your thinking for happier and more fulfilled life.

This 2016 re-focus your energy by becoming one with one's self, keep up with the meditation and make sure it becomes a ritual before bed time and when you wake up in the morning, it all starts with believing in yourself and you will make anything happen for you.

Just focus on solutions and positive energy and that is what you will attract, and if you need to take negative people away from your life do it, everyone has a reason for being in your life, some are meant for ever and some are meant for the moment.

Have a Safe, Happy and Blessed Thursday and Holiday Season to You and Your Loved Ones!

Sincereky,

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