Feeling useless

**Posts:** 33 · by **_neo_** » Tue Nov 04, 2014 1:22 am

I have an unemployed alcoholic father and unemployed schizophrenic brother, and my mother is cognitively impaired. I couldn't hold on to a job for more than two months, one said I worked too slow, others I didn't communicate enough. I have a degree in engineering and quite good at problem solving skills. But why are people always considering me as useless. I mean I've successfully completed a couple of projects on my own and have created some meaningful work... But still I feel like a punching bag for my co-workers or clients, anything that goes wrong seems like three times as bad as if someone else messes up.

I just don't have the motivation for work or energy for the critisism. I have no mentor for guidance and no reassurance that I'm actually smart and that others are wrong. I just don't know how to boost up my ego...

**Posts:** 45 · by **axandergom** » Tue Nov 04, 2014 3:05 am

Sorry to hear about your family, You have to build up more confidence other than them, always think that you have a degree, you're smart, and don't mind what they're saying about you, always think that they're just insecure to you

**Posts:** 33 · by **_neo_** » Sun Nov 16, 2014 9:27 pm

Thanks for the insight! Helped a lot...

**Posts:** 21 · by **coffeelove3** » Wed Jan 21, 2015 6:04 pm

That sounds terrible- you are provably smart and a good worker

but it sounds like the problems of your family are weighing in on you-and it shows

My parents divorced and turned into a depressed alcoholic,agressive at times. I know I tried to keep face with my family and said everything was fine-when it wasn't- I fell into a slow depression and gained 80 pounds in 2 yrs. From happy family party organizer girl- gym junkie to cold distant chubby girl. It was a huge difference.

took me a while to realize I was sad...like really sad inside. and it was affecting everything - I sought help and am getting back on track...

Maybe you need some help too

**Posts:** 33 · by **_neo_** » Thu Mar 19, 2015 12:58 pm

I can't get direct help from anyone, it's a difficult situation and only hard work and complete dedication will get me through it. It's these moments when our spirit is tested and we musn't give up. We need to keep fighting and follow our goals and passion.

Last two weeks I finally got a few compliments after my hard work, but now i've been sick for a week and everything is falling apart again. What were the odds of that happening? Anyway now I'm working while my head is spinning, programming is a bit harder, but stuff needs to get done.

From what I've learned over the past months is, that you need to set a goal and do everything in your power to make it happen. As they said, you need to follow your passion and life will reward you. Believe that the dots will connect in your future!

coffeelove3: do what you do best and start working now! every day you spend doing something else will set your life back for 6 months.

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