why we find it hard to talk to our loved ones

hello.

over the corse of my depression i have had many arguments with partners regarding my reluctance to disscus the problems and feelings i have.

i think its important for me to say this as i read in many of the other posts that poeple who live with depressed people cant understand why they cant confide in thier partners.

now i know this might be different in each case but this is why i couldnt and cant share.

firstly i have been living with derpession for many years now but only recently decided to confront it. In the past i have tried to denigh that i had a problem and to a certain degree i still do. in my head, this may sound crazy but things arnt real untill i share them with other people. while they are only in my mind it could easly be a figment of my imagenation, whats not real cant hurt me.

secondly as any one who every split up with a partner will know, hurting someone is hard but hurting someone you love is harder. there are some thoughts and aspects of my life that i cant share with loved ones because i know it will cause them pain.

curently this is the one im trying to cope with, im beginning to except the depression and im starting to understand where it comes from. im sure that me actually explaining these aspects would cause my family pain, if they new the places depression had taken me, well im just not sure.

family and friends are more important in recovery than the depressed person knows. though for me talking to family just moves the problem around, only talking to a counseler can help to address the problem.

its hard for family and frends to understand and except but for me this is the way it muct be.

i hope this helps some of you. i know first hand how hard it its to be around a depressed person you love and now im the depressed person not talking to my loved ones.

be cool and i hope my rambelling makes sence.

G