I understand nothing.

**Posts:** 1 · by **Emanuele** » Mon Oct 27, 2014 4:58 pm

Hi.
I don't know how I can begin my speech because I am a person who is very poor about skills of writing and talking.
Actually, I can't do anything!
I'm going to try with this way.
I am 17 years old.
I feel a big anger towards myself because I am good to do nothing.
I would like to be more intelligent than I am. I always try using the best of myself, but everything I do seems to be no use because I can never do something right, but mess.
Every time I do something, I make lots of mistakes.
I mean both the practical way and the theoretical way.
When somebody asks me about something of a subject like mathematics, story etc.
I can never answer. If I try answering, I make some mistakes.
I want to improve myself so I study very much, but it seems to be useless.
I have no skills!!
Even if I understand what I studied, I don't remember anything after a few hours later.
My friends can remember what they studied for long time, but me!!!
They can even understand faster than I can.
I'm becoming aware about my stupidity.
I want to produce much more than I do.
I want to be somebody special.
Recently, I understood I was born stupid and will die stupid!!
This makes me angry and sometimes I feel so angry that bite my arms or my legs.
I can't stop myself to do this.
Perhaps I must learn living with this awareness I understand nothing.
I would like to be as intelligent as my friends or Leonardo da Vinci or Galileo or other clever people.
What's your idea? :cry:

By the way, I am Italian.
I am sure I made some mistakes, after all I am fool.

**Posts:** 954 · by **Beloved** » Mon Oct 27, 2014 5:29 pm

You could get tested to see if the medical community shares your opinion of yourself. Find your strong points and your weak points and work with what you've got.

If you do OK with society's screening mechanisms, that is school, work, the military, it can't be too bad. Your relationships are another indicator.

The only person I knew who used to harm herself said she felt relief when she would cut herself. It's likely she has/had PTSD.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-harm

**Posts:** 2008 · by **WonderGurl** » Sat Nov 01, 2014 1:45 am

You're not being very fair to yourself, darling.

You're not stupid. You only think you are. Which are two entirely different things.

How about you start looking at positive things, however small they may seem, about yourself and focus on them while trying to think less about all the bad things you see in yourself. In all fairness, your positive traits do deserve a bit more of your attention.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Sat Nov 01, 2014 12:49 pm

we all develop at the perfect pace for us, when we learn to accept this, we enjoy a beautiful gift to ourselves, that only we can give to ourselves.

peace of mind

**Posts:** 45 · by **axandergom** » Mon Nov 03, 2014 10:51 am

That's why you feel it because you are always thinking that you can do nothing, all humanity had a mistake, there's no perfect human, all you have to do is to motivate yourself and stop thinking negative just always be positive.

**Posts:** 4 · by **giamegan** » Thu Nov 06, 2014 6:39 am

no one is perfect, but dealing with your problems the right way will surely make you a better version of your own self

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Sun Nov 09, 2014 1:34 pm

we are all perfect

**Posts:** 954 · by **Beloved** » Sun Nov 09, 2014 3:10 pm

JuliusFawcett wrote:we are all perfect

What dictionary are you using?

**Posts:** 2970 · by **quietvoice** » Sun Nov 09, 2014 3:20 pm

Beloved wrote:
JuliusFawcett wrote:we are all perfect

What dictionary are you using?

We are perfect, coming from the larger perspective. Julius ought to expand upon what perspective he is coming from.

One way that I see it, is that our subconscious is working perfectly to provide what was programmed into it. Change the program to change your life.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Sun Nov 09, 2014 4:23 pm

Beloved wrote:
JuliusFawcett wrote:we are all perfect

What dictionary are you using?

What dictionary would you like me to use?

**Posts:** 954 · by **Beloved** » Sun Nov 09, 2014 4:41 pm

Good answer, JF. The person who asks the questions controls the conversation.

In the fictional community of Lake Woebegone everyone is above average (which is not possible, by definition). By extension, what you are saying is not possible.

OCD people want to be perfect, narcissists believe they have achieved it. But if everyone is perfect then narcissists have no advantage over the rest of us.

I must have fallen down the rabbit hole and I expect to see Alice at any moment!

I hope she has aged well.

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Sun Nov 09, 2014 4:44 pm

What if we accept that everything as perfect, that this is just what is meant to be?

**Posts:** 954 · by **Beloved** » Sun Nov 09, 2014 5:06 pm

JuliusFawcett wrote:What if we accept that everything as perfect, that this is just what is meant to be?

If you believe that, I guess it is technically a delusion of grandeur.

If you don't believe it but you say it anyway then you should be a politician or a televangelist.

And then there was Elizabeth Taylor, who said that Michael Jackson is perfectly normal. What dictionary was she using?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Problem_of_evil

**Posts:** 2970 · by **quietvoice** » Sun Nov 09, 2014 5:09 pm

Beloved --
Words are always defined by their context. In what context was the word perfect used? (Haha, 'WordPerfect')

**Posts:** 10113 · by **JuliusFawcett** » Sun Nov 09, 2014 6:14 pm

We can just accept this world as it is, it's a very comforting choice, my Labrador dog is good at doing this

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