I have a work/family problem, need help?! pls do help me :)

Postby Kenan » Mon Nov 30, 2015 10:36 am

Hello all,

My name is Kenan Hadžalić and i come from Bosnia and Hercegovina. I have finished laws stuties and was/curently (for now) work at my father firms as a lawyers assosisiate. I have been workign this job for last year, and so far, i have done nothing bad in my way o view ( for example, i have done everything i was asked, did my part of job good - no bad nehaviours from my mentor was seen/feeled, and so on .... all in all when it comes to work ... i did good becouse i didnt make anyything bad for the complany i work for or for the clients i represent).

But, there was a problem. On satrurday 28.11.2015 my father (who is also my employer) came home drunk adn fired me bcs , and i quote "you don't respect me and for you I (my father) am nothing more then a dick". On those words i replied that i do respect him and his company, but that i can't agree with him on his thought bout one of our neighours (who is not our client) and that i don't like to speak of other people, simply bcs i don't know their backstory, therefore i cant judge them.

On that he fired me, explaining that i am not mature, rude and thankless (after everything he gave me - a opertunity to work), and that i should get another job, because i basiclly "called him a dick" - wich i never did. For dat moment i thought that those words are coming from a dose of alchhol he was drinkign and a gave it a rest til today/monday 30.11.2015 y.

But, today he was serius about his decision, and to be honest i don't know what to do. I did apologize for my behaviour (even tho i don*t think i did something wrong), and told him that i don't like to speak abut other people, especially if they are not clients of our/his firm, since i have no interest in them (they are not my family, not my friends, ... they are simply ppl i know and respect, nothing more).

I must warn you, this is long story short, but i think i have put in these line everything essential in that discussion we had.

So my question, what the hell should i do?!? I mean, i live in Bosnia, its not like jobs come around at every corner so i can pick it and say "**** it all, ill just do something else". How do i get my job back and still manage my private life so none couldn't force me in somekind of behaviuor just bcs they are my employes ....

Please, help. It's a big problem to me. I like my job, i do it with joy and don't want to lose a chance to get even better at it, but again, i can't alove everyove to treate me lieka dump which they can tose whenever they want.

I am good at my job, and in last year i have made 0 mistakes, hell, i have even improved buissness for around 20% ( no statistic data, but realistic spendings of my employer and number of jobs i have finished and acquired).

PS : sorry for bit grammer mistakes, not so good at english , i dont use everyday.
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Postby Richard@DecisionSkills » Mon Nov 30, 2015 1:43 pm

It doesn't matter if you did or did not make a mistake. It doesn't matter if it is your father. You will waste your energy and years of your life working at a place where each day you have to wonder the next time you will get fired.

So...Move Forward In Life.

This means take the skills you have learned and start applying for jobs. The sooner you find another job and the sooner you become your own man the better.
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Postby Kenan » Tue Dec 01, 2015 6:35 am

Thank you my friend.

I see wisdom in your words .... After all that drama i work today like nothing happend, and it frustates me even more. So many words untelled and soo many emotioncs gone to the wind.

TBh i must endure for at least one more year (/Bosnia regulations asks of us 2 years of constant work so we could go for a judge exams), so I took the job again, hoping mybe one day i will pass that exam and then move forward in my life.

Anyway thank you soo much. Words of candnies means a lot to broken person :)

Best of luck to you and your family.

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Postby KatherinnPalacio » Thu Dec 17, 2015 8:00 pm

Hi Kenan!

Good afternoon and thank you for sharing this with us. Sometimes we want our family members to approve of us and what we do so badly that we forget we need to start with loving and accepting ourselves and the mistakes we make.

We must learn to grow and take action with what we want in life, and sometimes working for the family business is not the best thing, because at the end we are not happy with accomplishments at the end of the day because our loved ones are not happy either.

I know you mentioned that because of where you live the jobs don't come that easy...but how about taking what you know, specially legal advice since you are a lawyer and give that valuable information to readers who are looking for the legal advice you have for them. Also you can create an e-book as well, helping people understand what they are going through and what legal steps they need to take and so on.

Just take a look around on google and how people are turning their passion and what they know into profit and have been able to create a life for them, that they themselves are happy with.

What ever you do, do not give up and use personal development and positive affirmations to always get you through the tough times, by not leaving you in the same place and working towards a fulfilling life.

Sincerely,

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