Territorial over workspace

**Posts:** 4 · by **mrsm** » Sun May 22, 2016 10:56 am

I have worked at the same place for 18 months and in this time I have perfected my workspace. By this I mean that I have everything to hand, it's all organised and I've bought all my own stationery.

I have a corner of the office and everything is around me and it has become my little den, for want of a better word.

So, my boss has decided that I need my own office. Although I am reluctant to leave my colleagues, I can see the logic in it. I will have more privacy, be more productive etc.

The problem that I have is, I know this is going to sound trivial, she has said that I can't take my desk and furniture. I have it set up to my liking and I feel really reluctant. My desk is corner shaped and the one in the new office is straight. I have suspension files in my bottom draw as it is deep and meant for files. The new desk does not have this so where do I put my files that I refer to daily.

These are just small things but they are big to me.

I have joked about it to my colleagues and they sympathise but I don't think they really get it.

I'm wondering what this says about me. Is it some sort of disorder or personality trait. I would really like to understand why I have this attachment and why it is so important to me.

Anyone got any views on this or do you have the same trait?

**Posts:** 12131 · by **Richard@DecisionSkills** » Sun May 22, 2016 12:36 pm

mrsm wrote:Anyone got any views on this or do you have the same trait?

You are correct. It is trivial, meaningless, beyond insignificant...but not to you. Why?

Fear.

Have you ever seen the shows on compulsive hoarders? Everything is important to them, they are afraid to throw away anything. They fear that they might need it and experience high levels of anxiety at the thought of not having it.

For you, it may not yet be fear, rather significant discomfort. Enough discomfort that you are in a forum asking about it. This is terrific as it shows you are self aware of the problem. You recognize it is trivial, yet you feel otherwise.

I recommend exploring what you fear. Do you fear not being able to do a good job? Or is spending time worrying about a desk a way to avoid facing another fear?

**Posts:** 46 · by **tijmenklip** » Tue Jun 07, 2016 3:29 pm

In my experience I get some attachement to stuff. "we have been through so much." The stuff was there during all kinds of event and emotions.

But in the end, it are just things. Though you may grow attached to things, letting go will feel good! Learn to disassociate and letting go.

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