Recurring bullying throughout life - confidence issues

You do not need to suffer because things that you dont know, instead you have to shine with your own knowledge and creativity

The last paragraph in your statement really summed this up. You're trying to define yourself from the outside-in. That is a huge mistake. That's also why you see a trend and a sort of revolving sequence of events that pop up again and again as if on schedule. How you see it and react to it is how it duplicates itself. So let's examine how you work yourself free of this trend.

I have two rules in life - I only control myself and I do not allow the words of others define me. This means that what you do with your life resides in your hands. Do you want to live for others and chase them around or do you want to live for yourself and do what makes you happy?

In today's society we allow too many outside forces to govern our self-worth. And social media or Facebook is a black plague on that measure with all of these clever actions words like "friend", "unfriend", "block", "like", "dislike". It's personalized to make you feel as if you should take it to heart and it's all designed around this idea of seeking acceptance from others. It's a troubling system because it feeds on the weakest denomination in society - People with no identity. And it promotes both acceptance and rejection with graphics for visual effect. People get hard wired to the effects of this and we wonder why people are susceptible to radical ideals in society. But I digress.

You have a choice each morning when you get up. Are you going to explore the things that make you happy in life or are you going to ask others what makes them happy? Because until you know what makes you happy and what is of value to you, how can you assess the merits of other people? What people look like and how they act are transient qualities that never last and are not tied to principles we live by.

To see the good and bad in others we must first understand how that works inside ourselves. You need to sit down and examine who YOU are devoid of company. What are your strengths? Where do you need to improve on? What are the things you like to do? When you discover it's okay to be you, life finds allot of clarity. That happens because you quit worrying what others think which allows you to just see them as they are. You can start measuring people by their own actions. You can't do that when you're busy wondering what they think of you. Only then can you start picking and choosing who YOU want to hang with. You'll likely find you don't need crowds of people so much as the valued company of a really good friend.

So quit looking outward. There's nothing out there for anyone. Start looking inward and discover who it is you are. Develop a love and appreciation for yourself and start evaluating from the inside-out. Because when you can do that, you will likely bump up against those fake friends again and think, " Why did I ever give them the time of day?" Make it about you and life will build a new course for you to travel through. I wish you all the best.