Strange fashion sense

Hello henry go,

Welcome to the forum.

I guess you have a few options.

One is to find a girlfriend who accepts you no matter what you wear; or alternatively to stop wearing skirts.

I think it comes down to what you value most.

Try http://www.next.co.uk/

Michael Lank wrote:Hello henry go,

Welcome to the forum.

I guess you have a few options.

One is to find a girlfriend who accepts you no matter what you wear; or alternatively to stop wearing skirts.

I think it comes down to what you value most.

Thanks for the comment.
Here in singapore it is quite warm and I just find wearing skirts more comfortable in the clima here instead of trousers.

When I go out then I wear what people expect me to wear, if I like it or not.

In general my perception is:
there is so much male fashion adapted for women to wear, why cant there be female fashion adapted for men to wear.


At the end, well, finding a girlfirend who accepts me as I am is my main problem because I would not like to give up my fashion sense.

indigo wrote:Try http://www.next.co.uk/

Hello Indigo,
Thanks for the link, but why did you post that?
Thats a page where people can buy clothes online.

I dont have problems going into the shop and just buy a skirt for me.
I usually dont tell the sales lady that is is for me, I just tell her the size I would like to have.

First, you haven't got any fashion sense. Fashion sense relates to the current trends - and there aren't any current trends for men wearing skirts. Some celebrities have tried it, but lets face it, it died a death.

There is still a patriarchal view to most of the world and this generally means men wear certain clothes and women wear others. Objectively speaking though if I wear a kaftan I'm kinda wearing a big shirt...if I wrap a towel around me after a shower, I'm wearing a towelling skirt. However, tradition is tradition so I wouldn't hold my breath for acceptance.

I think the main problem here would be a suspicion that you are actually a cross dresser and this thought freaks people out. If I were you, I just wouldn't respond when people have a problem because you'll justify their reaction. However, expect comments, looks, etc - if you can't deal with these then you only have one option. By the way, if its just a functional article of clothing, I would start to worry if you start saving up for that little designer number.

CharlieC wrote:First, you haven't got any fashion sense. Fashion sense relates to the current trends - and there aren't any current trends for men wearing skirts. Some celebrities have tried it, but lets face it, it died a death.

There is still a patriarchal view to most of the world and this generally means men wear certain clothes and women wear others. Objectively speaking though if I wear a kaftan I'm kinda wearing a big shirt...if I wrap a towel around me after a shower, I'm wearing a towelling skirt. However, tradition is tradition so I wouldn't hold my breath for acceptance.

Firstly, for fashion sense, maybe I havent expressed myself properly. English is not my mother tongue.

For cloths and what people can wear, it seems that women can wear what they want, even mens clothing, suit, a tie, trousers...whatever.
Only men cannot do that.

I am not holding my breath for acceptance beacuse I am realist and I know it might take time.

This week they have presented a guy here on TV who likes to wear a loin cloth when at home.
I must tell you: thats uncomfortable to wear.

I would start to worry if you start saving up for that little designer number.

I dont understand that sentence. What do you mean?

I dont save up for anything. When I like to have a new skirt then I go to the shop and buy one. Nothing with flowers, usually plain jeans or so.
For the rest: I dont like to dress like a woman or look like a woman, I just like that skirts are more comfortable and cool to wear than trousers.

switch to kilts and tell people you have a deep interest in traditional scottish fashion.

LN wrote:switch to kilts and tell people you have a deep interest in traditional scottish fashion.

Thanks for the idea. I thought of that already.

Actually I dont like kilts.
because they are too warm, too long and they are wrapped skirts. I prefer skirts which cover my upper leg half. Thats short enough to feel cool and long enough to walk around and sit down comfortably.

With it would come more scottish clothes which are too warm for tropical climate.

One more for CharlieC:
I have noticed that various fashion designers wanted to introduce/experimented with skirts for men.
Actually it would be good idea because skirts are much more comfortable to wear than trousers but....have you looked at those designs??? Horrible! Noone would have bought that. No wonder that it was a flop.
I dont know what had gotten in those fashion designers mind. Probably nothing much.

This guys who wears a loin cloth...he wasn't sitting with a chimp was he? Skirts are maybe more comfortable but don't they have attendant problem like crossing legs and riding horses? Lifes a balance I guess.

Maybe theres a gap for a skirt wearing male designer to create a new range. Good luck.

CharlieC wrote:This guys who wears a loin cloth...he wasn't sitting with a chimp was he? Skirts are maybe more comfortable but don't they have attendant problem like crossing legs and riding horses? Lifes a balance I guess.

Maybe theres a gap for a skirt wearing male designer to create a new range. Good luck.

Hi CharlieC
lucky me then, coz I dont ride horses.
For crossing legs, I cant see the problem, yet. Especially with plead skirts thats no problem at all. Or skirts could be made a bit longer, or wider, or even a cut could be made in the middle and then they could set in a piece of cloth so that men could sit with the legs comfortable spread out. There are many possibilities how to adapt skirts for men.

Well, colours like red with yellow flowers or something with lace would not be a good idea to wear for a man, although some might like it.
For the design in general fashion designers could chose jeans or more decent colours.


For the guy with the loin cloth, no he was not sitting beside a monkey and it was also not Tarzan . It was a Caucasian elderly man.

Somewhere you talked about crossdressing. That seemingly does not exist for women because whatever they wear it is accepted. Not so for men...
I find that strange.

Well, as has already been said, either you need to find someone who finds your mode of dress acceptable or stop wearing skirts. As for it being more acceptable for women to wear mens clothes than vice versa, that isn't always the case - there are still people who frown on women wearing trousers even in this day and age, and if a women dresses in too masculine a style then her sexual persuasion starts to be questioned. Not much different to you being judged for wearing skirts really.

This seems a bit obvious, but wouldn't loose-fitting, light-weave, cotton shorts be just as cool and comfortable, and more socially acceptable?

Hi Henry

I don't see any reason why you shouldn't wear exactly what you want to - it shouldn't just be the perogative of women to wear what they want. Its equally as unfair as the traditional men versus women ideas.

Have you thought about wearing a sarong? You can get them in all lengths, and you're in exactly the right part of the world to wear them - Maybe the longer ones for outdoors. Personally I think a man's legs would look very good in a sarong, so go for it!

Best wishes

Sue

I can think of plenty of reason where I live - you'd get your donkey kicked.

how about a utili-kilt? shorter than scottish kilt, easily washable material, lots of pockets, one peice instead of wrapped. ALot of active, outdoorsy types in tropical climes seem to like them.