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Dear Ruben,

I am a bit puzzled by your Post. I can't really see that you asked us for any Help. What I seem to have read is a kind of Manifesto of Hate and Resentment, and it is not at all clear that you see any Problem with that.

But this Site is for Anger Management, and it certainly can't endorse intentional bitterness. Yes, we may Understand Why some people are hateful, bitter, hostile and resentful, but while such people seem to be indulging and even Glorying in such Toxic Negativity, we must be careful not to seem to be Enabling It.

I am angry that i can not be a loner wolf or better example every time i go outside people's f***ing wanna be my friend or enemy or both No that's not how this world work or will ever work look to make easy way to understand is i am holding a grudge over people's for calling me fag or gay and guess this bullying me to do something they want **** GOD **** SATAN I don't need religion to get what i want, i don't need nobody pity or trust or comparison, i just want to get a job and be alone forever.

Loner_Wolf wrote:I am angry that i can not be a loner wolf or better example every time i go outside people's f***ing wanna be my friend or enemy or both No that's not how this world work or will ever work look to make easy way to understand is i am holding a grudge over people's for calling me fag or gay and guess this bullying me to do something they want **** GOD **** SATAN I don't need religion to get what i want, i don't need nobody pity or trust or comparison, i just want to get a job and be alone forever.

Dear Lone Wolfe,

Do you want our Pity or our Help?

Yes, your case is sufficiently pathetic for almost any degree of Sympathy, Compassion, and Pity. That and $6.75 in Seattle will get you a Great Cup of Coffee. But it would be No Help.

You see, while You Think You Are in a Perfectly Correct Position, and Doing All of the Perfectly Right Things, well, from Your Viewpoint, it is We here at the Forum who should be asking You for your Help.

So, please, could you now be so kind as to Explain to us all how we may also become mean nasty and bitter and whatever else it might take to be as healthy and well adjusted as you.

I don't know how i am "healthy adjusted" because i am not, i hate my peer and i won't like going to college and those people's and i hate let's me say this again HATE that, people's are bulling me this to become their friend or saying sh** toward me i don't care if i act kids because most people's act like kid everyday, i just want to be loner or be with my niece

Loner_Wolf wrote:I don't know how i am "healthy adjusted" because i am not, i hate my peer and i won't like going to college and those people's and i hate let's me say this again HATE that, people's are bulling me this to become their friend or saying sh** toward me i don't care if i act kids because most people's act like kid everyday, i just want to be loner or be with my niece

What do you want from us?

You want us to be a soundboard for all of your moaning and complaining? I'll tell you something you probably haven't been able to figure out for yourself, that Everyone's Got Problems. Yes, we all Should deal with our own Problems, as we can't always count on problems to go away by themselves, but it becomes a Problem In Itself if the Only Thing We Think About are all our Problems. Focusing entirely on Negativity is Toxic to one's Personality.

So, we have established that it is Bad to overly dwell on Our Own Problems. Now just Think about How Advisable it would be to Listen to Someone Else Overly Dwelling on their Problems.

What Good Is It doing? All of Your Complaining... Dumping a Truck Load of Negativity on our Page. It probably just gets You all riled up... seething and bitter. And it is No Treat For Us Either.

So, please, Turn Directions. And try to Think of Some Other Way of Utilizing Us. Up until now you have just been punishing us, or it seems that way...

Nothing from your people's, this is just me release anger not all you just release anger nothing from what i am saying is not you but my peer in my high-school hell i am getting angry over today.

Loner_Wolf wrote:Nothing from your people's, this is just me release anger not all you just release anger nothing from what i am saying is not you but my peer in my high-school hell i am getting angry over today.

Dear Lone Wolf,

You come to a Page that is busting at the seams with People who are experts on Anger, but somehow you, just a kid, think that you know it all already, or isn't that so?

But please let me try to explain to you... it is Not Healthy to wallow in Anger the Way you Do. Anger is Not a good thing. If you were to Ask an Expert about Anger, you would find out that Expressing and Acting Out Anger is NO RELEASE... it only Makes the Anger Worse. You must know that! You have done it enough to know for sure, haven't you?

If you Feel Good after 'releasing' your Anger, well, it just means that you are Getting Off on all that Hatred and Meanness. You Like the Feeling of seething Rage. If you were in a Nice Quiet Peaceful School where everyone was nice and polite and civilized, tell me honestly that you wouldn't Hate It and Still try to Find a Way to Make Trouble and be hateful.

Its not healthy. Your attitude is a sick one. I suspect that Everyone You Complain about sees this 'Kind of Something' wrong with you and That is why you get so much Negative and Defensive Reaction from people. After all, you are talking about Teen Agers, and so Group Status, Group Territory, and Peer Pressure are all involved, and YOU have made yourself an Outsider -- a Target, and probably a favorite Target of more than One Group. Don't you belong to a Group? If you were accepted by any significant Group of Students in your School, you would have some Protection. But, I guess you don't call yourself the Lonely Wolf for nothing. Apparently everyone hates you so much that you can't find another single soul in the whole School that will team up with you. That's sad.

And doesn't make you wonder? Do you think that People are somehow Wrong about You? But how could everybody be wrong about you. There must be something real in what they all don't like about you. Where there's Smoke, there's Fire, as they say.

And I can guess that a lot of it is just your hateful angry attitude. You just seem to be this Toxic Poisonous Person to be around.

But you Come Here, to an Anger Management Page and think you can Tell Us about Anger. But what could you possibly know to tell? You know, we can Guess a lot more about you then you will ever know to Tell. I would guess, and I probably wouldn't be wrong, that You have never had a Clear Thought in your entire life.

If you don't want our help, I wonder why you keep coming here. Nothing you say fits with the Purpose of this Page... we are not Here to Celebrate and Glory in our Anger, Spite and Hatefulness. We try to control and subdue our Anger. Maybe you should think of starting your Own Page... the Web could probably use a few more Dark, and Negative Pages... you know, as a Contrast to Everything that is Good and Decent.